hi so I applied for res for fall 2023 and had my deposit deferred and now the deadline is the 10th and I can't find where the deposit was deferred to. does anyone know where it goes to cuz im so confused

some backstory my boyfriend and i have been dating for 8 months and met through a mutual friend, shortly after becoming bf and gf, i joined his friendship group, consisting of 2 women and 4 men (including my boyfriend) all age 21. one of the girls, we’ll call A, lives a 5 hour journey away and comes to visit the friends around every 6 weeks, she’s done this about five times i think. she stays over at the second girls house, and the whole group has sleepovers and drinking parties together. after being a part of this friendship group for around 2 months and meeting A once, my boyfriend’s best friend started to be mean to me, and I began to feel left out of the group and was starting to be unhappy, so I decided to stop meeting up with them. I told my boyfriend how I was feeling due to his friends, but he decided to not hold them accountable and just wanted to stay friends with them.
here’s where things started to get interesting, whenever A would come to visit them, my boyfriend would go out of his way to meet up with her every single day of her stay (which was usually about a week) cancelling our plans and not letting me know that he’d be unavailable because she would be there with him and their friends. which was just a bit annoying to begin with, but I understood as he didn’t get to see her often. he texts her daily, plays online games whilst talking to her on discord call too. after she would go back home he’d talk about her to me and tell me stories about her, like how my boyfriend’s best friend had started saying mean things to A like he had done with me, but instead of staying his friend like before, my boyfriend hasn’t spoken to him since! this made me feel like A’s feelings of sadness are more important to my boyfriend and my feelings of sadness. I let him know that her being one of his only topics of conversation at this time was making me feel like he liked her as more than friends. I broke down crying, having my first panic attack in years, sitting right in front of him. he was on his phone, scrolled through a few more TikTok‘s, and then decided to comfort me. he said “you just have to trust me”.
barely feeling reassured. I started to calm myself down as I knew this wouldn’t happen again for a few weeks, and it didn’t. even know she wasn’t mentioned in our conversations , I still knew they were texting and calling each other, but I started to feel okay. up until yesterday! I was at my boyfriend’s house last night and asked him what he was doing this week, he calmly said “oh shit, I forgot to tell you” and proceed to tell me how is travelling 5 hours to see A, tomorrow!!! which is now today. I was just in shock and confused why he didn’t ask how I would feel about this, at the least he could’ve told me more than 12 hours in advance. him and two other friends have gone to see A today (one M one F who are in a relationship) to me this seems like some sort of a double date thing. they are all sleeping over at A’s house for 5 nights and plan on getting drunk together, he says he is sleeping in a room by himself, but that doesn’t really reassure me. all of this compiled into one, is really starting to make me rethink our relationship. he knows my feelings, he has seen how upset I’ve gotten over this yet continue to act like he’s none the wiser. if I didn’t ask his plans for the week would he have ever told me?!
what more can I say to him?

Does Connor have no active interest in Waystar anymore? Does he just live off a finite trust?
In the first episode he leaves the room, saying he wants no part of arguing about the trust, which indicates he does somehow benefit from it. But is that an entity divorced from the fate of Waystar? His uncle is on the board but he isn't. I find that odd.

So confused
Sooo I’ll try to make this as short as possible , I’ll also say real quick that I’m AWFUL at reading men + mens intentions so.. that’s why I’m here . ANYWAYS. I’m talking to this guy I’ve known for the past two years .. two years becuase I’ve moved back and forth withen that time and just recently came back here . But after I left the first time we didn’t really talk much. We’ve recently started talking again and hung out a few times , I really cannot read this guy , he’s not like other guys I’ve been around . He’s extremely kind and respectful. He does ask to hang out and we’ve been talking semi regular but here’s where I’m having the confusion . When we hang out he is super super quiet . He’s also not very touchy or physical, I can’t tell if it’s something to do with me or maybe that’s just his personality? I feel like I’m dragging conversation out of him when I’m around him which you shouldn’t be feeling like your doing with someone that likes you . So in that instance I would think , alright , he just dosnt like me. Then why does he continue to text me / ask to do things? In person I swear it feels like just a friends type thing. He in no way really flirts or does anything to insinuate more than friends . But I will say I suck at flirting but I am trying . I guess it just really bothers me how dry he is in person and feel like it’s he just wants to be friends or maybe that’s how he is ? I’ve always heard men are extremely straight forward and if they like you you’ll know , but I can’t tell with him 😭 I was just wondering if any of y’all have had similar experiences/ if anyone has any advice on what I should do to show this man I like him . As more than friends . Is it possible he’s just shy?

So I ( M25) visit a friend ( F25 )from high school , while on a trip to my hometown. I’ve always stayed in touch with her as she was a great friend and honestly there was always an attraction towards each other.
Note , I’ve been single for 3 years now as I’ve been really focusing on my career , my mental health and really trying to get rid of habits I saw would really affect my relationships in the future.
When we hang out it was instant fireworks , we really hit it off. We make it back to her place and we sleep together ( no sex ) and when we wake up the next day we started talking about if we could see anything happening in the future.
She says “ I want to be your girlfriend, I don’t want to JUST be talking to you , we’ve known each other for years I don’t see why we have to go through that phase “
I explain to her that while we have stayed in touch , the versions of ourselves present at this time still don’t know eachother enough to become that serious so quickly , I did want to talk to her and honestly rushing into a relationship after so much time alone felt like a bad idea to me , plus I live in a whole other state and I literally just started a business. My attention right now is a bit occupied but after some thinking I thought what the hell , I know myself and I know it’s rare that I feel THIS comfortable around a person. Let’s try it.
I get back and me n her are on the phone 24/7. I mean we spent a literal 24 hours on the phone just talking and laughing , I guess trying the long distance thing out. As the days go by I start to notice she has an ungodly amount of time on her hands something that I really have to move the sun and moon for. But what the hell I said for a long distance thing to work I have to dedicate a little bit more time than usual.
At this point I’m realizing she also goes out a lot , she would frequent a bar that not only she had worked at but where she had made a number of friends over the years.
Well the phone calls started getting really toxic when ever she was done going out. Inebriated, she would get really defensive and her temper would flare to extreme levels. On the first occasion , she got upset because I told her she should probably get something to eat and some water because she was so blacked out drunk she wasn’t speaking coherently. She lives alone and the thought of something tragic happening stressed me out to no end. She hangs up on me that night and calls me hours later waking me up.
she continues the night talking to me as if she didn’t just hang up on me mid sentence. Again I let her know she should probably get some rest and that I am a little upset by the way she’s treating me at the moment. I still let her know I forgive her because she’s not all there at the moment but my feelings were voiced. She hangs up on me again , the third time she wakes up and this time it’s 5 in the morning and she is crying and apologizing. I tell her it’s okay just please get some rest we will talk later. She hangs up on me again.
When we end up speaking about what happened she lets me know that she can behave that way when she is drunk to not take it so personally. “ I might even call you names so Im sorry if I do”
I let her know that if something like that happens I would not tolerate it as I grew up in a household where alcohol was a problem. Two days later she’s drunk at a party face timing me. She’s on a couch , completely wasted staring at my angry face. I ask her hows she’s going to get home and she begins to give me defensive responses. I let her know that I’m not going to argue with her when’s she’s drunk because she loses her temper and I don’t want talk to that person. She hangs up on me and I spend the next two days living my life. I do not ignore her I just let her know that i need space right now to think about what’s best for her and for myself .
It was too much for her to wait so she txts me “ if you’re gonna break up with me just do it already don’t have me sitting her worrying “
I proceed to call her and let her know I do not think this is going to work out . She started yelling at me , scolding me for “giving up “so quickly . Up to this point I’ve been keeping my cool but when she started disrespecting me I had lost my cool. It ended with the nastiest break up I’ve ever had. I blocked her on everything and I sit here with the thought that wtf just happened over the last month
Anyway I post this because I’m confused on why she hates me so mucho right now. She’s the one who changes when she’s drunk and belittles and disrespects me why would anyone put up with that ? Why doesn’t she understand she can’t treat people like that ?

Hello I'm a Trans MTF and I'm 18, I'm from the US where the state of Missouri passed a law where you have to undergo, multiple screenings and also be 3 years diagnosed with gender dysphoria.
With recently getting the courage and talked to my mom about me transitioning and everything was going. Suddenly I've learned the state of Missouri has passed a law where transitioning was made harder to do.
I've been concerned and worried as I've been looking everywhere to find gender reaffirming care but everywhere has removed Missouri as a option and I feel isolated with me going to college next year and no way of being myself.
I know this is vent, but does anyone have advice on what I can do?

This is going to be long, since I feel I need to do a lot of explanation to demonstrate the severity of everything. So buckle up for this ride.
My mother has been an alcoholic her entire adult life. It was hidden from my siblings and I as kids, but since 2015 it’s gotten progressively worse and obvious. She is now at the point where she drinks every night, and has started drinking during the day as well. She has also gone through periods where she drives drunk, and has been doing so again.
It’s not surprising that she has this problem, her entire childhood led up to this. She was born and lived in El Salvador’s until she was 14, and was physically abused by her mother who blamed her for being cut off from her family for having my mom out of wedlock. She was molested by multiple family members from a young age. Then during the war she saw violence and hundreds of dead bodies multiple times. She was treated poorly and lived in poverty as other immigrants often are when her family came to the US.
She already had a drinking problem when she met my father. He, not understanding what an addiction is really like back in the 90s, enabled her and continues to do so even today. He is also a narcissist and controlling, so I imagine this has something to do with it as well.
My father has intense rage issues. All four of us grew up in an extremely abusive home, experiencing emotional and physical abuse from both of them. My siblings and I all have intense trauma and issues because of it. My parents also abuse each other, having intense fights where items are thrown, one of them leaves in the middle of the night, and/or cops get called. Dad has also always refused to stop drinking and smoking weed in the house, stating her problems shouldn’t be his. This triggers her all the time.
My mother was diagnosed with panic disorder and depression in 2019. She mixes her meds with alcohol every day. She was 51 then 5250d in 2021 for claiming she took all her meds one day while drunk to kill herself (plot-twist, this was a lie). She hurts herself often and we believe she is beginning to experience the beginnings of live disease as she is morbidly obese, doesn’t eat anymore, shits liquid and often blood. She refuses to be honest with her doctors about her alcohol use.
She’s attempted to stop before, but only by shortly going to AA or outpatient rehab before dropping out. My parents go back and forth saying the other one rejects the idea of inpatient rehab. I keep telling my dad to get her an IID on her car but he says she’d be embarrassed.
My two sisters and I still live in the home, as my parents have made it incredibly difficult for us to be independent. My dad has made sure all four of us have always stayed reliant on them in some way. We all see drama firsthand every single day.
Multiple family members get into fights all the time. I usually have to mediate. My mother blames my father every day when she’s drunk claiming he ruined her life and it’s his fault we lost our home and that she is the way she is. She also seeks me out, switching between wanting to tell me stories of her trauma and calling me a druggie slut that also ruined her life. She follows us both around the house to do so. Their fights have traumatized me so much that every noise I hear from upstairs results in me hearing their voices arguing every night. I have a tick now that makes me need to call my dad or sister, or listen against the door to the stairs to confirm what’s happening. Often it’s just normal talking or the TV. I for ear plugs, but I still hear their voices when anxious.
I have been making plans to move out, but multiple reasons have made it difficult, though now it will happen in the near future.
My dad has talked about having interventions and “conversations” with her for years. It never goes anywhere, and financial circumstances have up until recently made it impossible for her to go to inpatient rehab. He finally is in a good position financially to do so, and seems more serious about it. Thing is, any conversation we have she always agrees and promises to stop, but nothing happens. I believe we need to have a spot for her lined up same day if we’re going to do this.
How do we go about this? Should we have a professional be present? I worry about doing this alone since most of the family cannot control their tempers. At the same time I’m scared all the commotion of the family would be too much for the interventionist. I also worry about the fact that my mother knows and uses the fact that my father and I have both abused drugs as a defense. I’m 27 and have party kinda of often( electronic scene) but have calmed down and lot and not heavily abused drugs for years. My father heavily abused many drugs until he had multiple heart attacks last year. He no longer uses cocaine but has started smoking and drinking occasionally again. I know for a fact she will call this out and I’m not sure how we’d respond to that without escalating.
I’m honestly not even convinced that rehab would help. She has a lifetime is extreme trauma and issues that she refuses to talk about with mental health professionals or anyone if she’s sober. I truly see her drinking for the rest of her life. A big issue is that there are virtually no consequences we can seriously dole out. My dad will never divorce her or kick her out because they are extremely codependent and he has major guilt issues. He will never prevent her from driving. He just bought her a new Benz for Christ’s sake! None of us have the capability of cutting her off right now - my sisters and I live with them, both sisters are in college, and my brother who is autistic and struggles with decent employment works for them. I’ve chosen not to interact with her in the past, but it just made her worse! There’s also 0% chance he will do the research to get her set up for rehab, as he never follows through with anything.
I truly believe this will be nothing but a money sink and that she will drink until she dies from an overdose or an accident. My father, her, and the rest of our family are too fucked up or toxic. My dad will most definitely drive her to relapse with his bullshit. But we have to give it a try. Otherwise it’s guaranteed she’ll never change.
If you made it through this, thank you so much for spending that time. I am very grateful for any advice given and hope that I find the light at the end of this tunnel. I feel for everyone here in similar positions.

Greetings Northern Utah Brethern and Sistern from your So. Utah third cousin through your polygamist great-grandfather!
I work for a company in SLC, but living in So. Utah, don't know the SLC area terribly well. I have a few co-workers wanting me to take them canyoneering down here later this year, but they have never been. SOOO, I am looking for a place in the SLC area where I could take them to teach them "the ropes" (Pun Intended) of rappelling...
This may not be the right forum for this ask, so could someone either give me some recommendations OR point me to a subreddit for the area that might have info?

Hello, I don't have a pond or live close to any water sources. I'm not sure what this even does to be honest but I was looking to sell it. I've had this for a year not knowing what it is until today I looked it up. Do people buy these used?
But yeah! What does it do, and how do I test it to see if it works? Any advice would be appreciated!

Sooo I’ll try to make this as short as possible , I’ll also say real quick that I’m AWFUL at reading men + mens intentions so.. that’s why I’m here . ANYWAYS. I’m talking to this guy I’ve known for the past two years .. two years becuase I’ve moved back and forth withen that time and just recently came back here . But after I left the first time we didn’t really talk much. We’ve recently started talking again and hung out a few times , I really cannot read this guy , he’s not like other guys I’ve been around . He’s extremely kind and respectful. He does ask to hang out and we’ve been talking semi regular but here’s where I’m having the confusion . When we hang out he is super super quiet . He’s also not very touchy or physical, I can’t tell if it’s something to do with me or maybe that’s just his personality? I feel like I’m dragging conversation out of him when I’m around him which you shouldn’t be feeling like your doing with someone that likes you . So in that instance I would think , alright , he just dosnt like me. Then why does he continue to text me / ask to do things? In person I swear it feels like just a friends type thing. He in no way really flirts or does anything to insinuate more than friends . But I will say I suck at flirting but I am trying . I guess it just really bothers me how dry he is in person and feel like it’s he just wants to be friends or maybe that’s how he is ? I’ve always heard men are extremely straight forward and if they like you you’ll know , but I can’t tell with him 😭 I was just wondering if any of y’all have had similar experiences/ if anyone has any advice on what I should do to show this man I like him . As more than friends . Is it possible he’s just shy?

Dogman Armchair Theories Topic 1: What is Dogman?

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Topic 1: A Brief Introduction to Dogman

Greetings! This first topic of Dogman Armchair Theories will discuss some basic questions related to the topic of Dogman. As stated in the Topic Index, the goal is to eventually create a series of articles that visitors may use to learn more about our favorite cryptid. Without further ado, let’s get’s started.
What is Dogman?
To lurkers of this subreddit, it may seem obvious what a dogman is. However, to a person not familiar with dogman, the term may call to mind a children’s comic by the same name, or perhaps a silly Halloween costume idea.
The reality is far more unexplainable, if not sinister. A dogman is a cryptid creature that appears as a bipedal canine.
Those unfortunate to encounter it describe feelings of fear, dread and that they are seeing something they should not. Aggressive encounters have been reported, with some alleged killings attributed to this creature.
Witnesses may describe dogman with other names of similar-appearing creatures. Examples include: “werewolf”, “dog/human hybrid”, or “wolfman”.
Given the many advances in technology, one may experience disbelief at the idea that a bipedal wolf-like monster is roaming woods around the world. While all opinions are worth exploring, the fact remains that people from all walks of life continue to report seeing something unexplainable in the woods (and occasionally in urban environments, too).
What does a dogman look like?
Typical encounters describe a monster that stands approximately 6-9ft in height, weighs up to half a ton, and has a distinct head with pointed ears, a long canine muzzle, amber or red-colored eyes, and black or brown fur.
Some witnesses describe seeing a tail, while others do not. Others describe hands similar to human hands, but with long nails that appear to be claws.
Typically Dogman is also described as being very muscular and lean.
Dogman is known to both run and walk on two legs, but can also maneuver on four legs. Some sightings describe loud ‘popping’ noises when a dogman goes from walking on all fours to walking on two legs.
The leg descriptions vary, with some saying the creature had human-style legs, or plantigrade, while other encounters described a creature with dog legs, “bent backwards”, possibly suggesting a digitigrade gait.
There is some debate about types and variations of dogman. Some witnesses describe creatures that are more hyena-like in appearance, others with “Anubis”-style heads, baboon faces, and so on. These variations will be discussed in later topic entries.
Where is Dogman found?
A vast majority of sightings of this cryptid occur across North and South America. More work is needed to quantify if certain areas have larger concentrations of sightings compared to others. But from Canada to Brazil, and possibly further, wherever there are ample food and water sources, or burial grounds, Dogman survives and thrives.
Witnesses have spotted Dogman in other places besides national parks or the general woods. Sightings exist on the outskirts of major cities, farms, ranches, and occasionally in urban areas during the late evening hours.
Is Dogman a Physical Animal?
At the present, there is no concrete evidence, such as DNA or a body released to public opinion, to suggest that dogman is a physical animal. This does not, however, cheapen the encounters of those who have been struck by the beast's claws or loved ones who have met grisly ends.
Simply put: there is not enough evidence for the scientific community as a whole to put funding towards research to explore this hypothesis. Until science catches up to the beast, we may never know for certain.
There is some debate about physical types and variations of dogman. Some witnesses describe creatures that are more hyena-like in appearance, others with “Anubis”-style heads, baboon faces, and so on. These will be discussed in a separate topic at a later date.
Several theories postulate that Dogman is both a physical and spiritual creature, walking between our physical realm and the 'other' realm we cannot see with our own eyes. Others claim it is a spiritual entity, hellbent on avenging the dead and chasing away those who disturb burial grounds.
What is the difference between Dogman and Werewolves?
Werewolves described in popular fiction, and also in historic folklore records, are people, humans, who have shapeshifted into a bipedal wolf creature via magic, genetics, or through spellwork with magical items (such as wolf belts). Some folklore stories describe wolf-headed people who can talk and communicate with others.
Dogman, or Dogmen, do not possess any transformation abilities. They simply exist in their oft-described form: a bipedal wolf-appearing creature that cannot communicate with verbal or written words. Some witnesses claim that Dogman speaks telepathically to them, but additional study will be needed to establish a pattern to these claims.
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Reason 1: Trump,
Until Trump is dead or in jail every upencoming republican must answer too him and DeSantis does so poorly. DeSantis appears to be in a weird space where he can't attack Trump in any inflammatory way as the republican voting base prefer as that would mean Trump's massive base will immediately write him off. Any criticism of Trump is extremely weak and holds little presence. Even his recent attacks against Trump have to be tempered with the idea that he was once good as Desantis campaigned on the fact that Trump approved of him in the gubernatorial race. He also in a way needs to be Trump in a way, he needs to embody Trump's boisterous insulting attitude however he fails as DeSantis largely lacks.
Reason 2: His social policies are poisonous to moderates
People hate the stupid Disney fight, deep red states are voting left for the first time in ages in reaction to strict abortion laws, and the anti-trans laws are polling poorly. In a general election he doesn't just need to get the hard right he needs some moderates and all these issues poll poorly for them. They laymen doesn't give a shit if Disney has a pride event or if trans people exist for normal people so many other issues take precedence than DeSantis idiotic crusade against woke ideology

Does anybody have any suggestions? I've been trying to find a Doctor in Pennsylvania who specializes in MTHFR gene mutations who could lead me in the right direction for getting bloodwork and supplementation.
Ive been diagnosed with Tourette's Syndrome, OCD, major anxiety and Major Depressive Disorder. I've suffered with all of this since I was yound. Whenever I've asked my PCP for bloodwork... or to confirm folate levels, homocysteine etc, nobody can ever point me in the right direction to get the proper screenings/blood tests.
I'm kinda lost on what to ask for or who to see for this. Can anybody point me in the right direction here?
I'm in the Philadelphia area of Pennsylvania. Totally willing to travel for the right Doctor or specialist ... I just have no idea where to start or what to research to get there. I just want relief fand advice from somebody who knows about this stuff.. :-[ Thanks

I don't know if this is the right place to post this but I think I have some type of attention deficit disorder. (Appointment is 9-month outs to see someone where I live, yes I have scheduled) for a long time now I can not get anything done. Dealt with horrible anxiety and depression, didn't have any motivation to get out of bed, would constantly say that I would do something and never went through with it, had horrible almost comical memory loss etc. A friend of mine had Vyvanse that she didn't need anymore so she gave them to me during finals week. Not only was I able to study and focus and actually get through material (something I haven't done in ages, honestly don't know how i graduated I did almost zero studying because i could never "get into it") but i was also productive did laundry, folded clothes, PUT AWAY the clothes, cleaned, journaled, did some meditation like i actually felt normal for once. The Vyvanse ran out and I am back in my slump again, Ill tell myself I will go to the library just to end up driving around, going to Starbucks, walking around campus and once I am at the library I can not focus and am easily distracted. Like i genuinely don't whats wrong with me and I am going to start disciplining myself but am wondering if there are any supplements that have helped you focus and be productive.
Yes, i have a scheduled appointment to see someone, yes I know I need to see a professional. I am not asking for medical advice rather recommendations.

I live in a 2x2 apartment with my ex-boyfriend (21M). I initiated our break up in October of least year, about a month before what would have been our 3-year anniversary. The primary reasons for our break up were his dishonesty and lack of responsibility. I was paying for everything on my own and didn't feel like he was being a responsible equal partner, then on top of that, it turned out that his history of dishonesty was not history, but still current. The nail in the coffin that secured my decision to end the relationship was finding out he'd told his family that he was borrowing money for rent because I didn't have my half, when in reality it was the other way around.
We continued to cohabitate because both of our names are on the lease, and while I could have gone to my parents' house, I was concerned about ending up with an eviction on my credit. So, things were okay-ish living together, with lines blurring from time to time, until the beginning of this year. I was still the primary person handling bills/rent with little help from him in that area, even after being out of both of my jobs for over a week with COVID. I grew more and more resentful as things really didn't seem to change much, and eventually the environment at home grew toxic with my resentment and desperation for help clashed with him swearing he's doing his best and I just don't see all the effort he's putting in. Admittedly, he was doing nice little things like doing the dishes, offering to rub my back when I got home, lighting candles in my room for when I get home, taking my dog out for me, things like that. But I told him I'd rather he help me with keeping us afloat financially, and that didn't go over well.
At the very end of January, things came to a head when he didn't tell me that the power bill was way overdue (it's his bill, I pay the gas), and they cut off our power. I couldn't afford to pay the months of backed up bills because I'd just paid for other bills. I came home after a long day of work to an apartment with no power and we ended up in an argument. He went left to go to a different state to be with his parent. I went to my parents' house with our pets because the apartment had no power.
A day or two after he left, we had a conversation. I told him I'd be willing to try again if he agreed to make some changes: get a job, get into therapy, things like that. He'd started working, said he was in therapy, said he had a psychiatrist and started meds, it seemed like he'd made a lot of progress. Fast forward two months and I invited him on a trip with me for my birthday, as we'd reconnected more as he seemed to be growing more responsible. He'd offered to pay for my flight as a gift, then at the last minute, said he couldn't. He also missed his flight and just hopped back into bed instead of going to the airport to try to get another one. Then, he ended up not having his half of the money for our hotel, so I had to ask family in the state we traveled to to buy our hotel for last half of the trip. We ended up arguing on the trip because I brought up that the whole thing felt a lot like old patterns.
Fast forward two more months and he came back from his parent's house out of state to try to reconcile our relationship. I was under the impression that because he'd have a job immediately (transferring), he'd be able to pay his share of things responsibly, and he'd be more stable and healthy mentally (depression - which I also live with), and he'd been working on his dishonesty problem in therapy. So, I encouraged him to come back and we could slowly try starting over.
Well, all of that came to a screeching halt when our power went out last week. He'd told me he got on a payment plan with the power company, but then wouldn't let me listen to his phone call with them to figure out why the power was out. I called them myself and they said no payment arrangement had been made. I had to come out of pocket $500 and ask my parents for $300 to get our power turned back on, as it hadn't been paid since I paid it in February. He swore he'd pay my mom and I back on his payday that Friday, but then he said he didn't get paid Friday because his manager didn't submit his hours on time. Whenever he gets a job, they seem to always be with places that frequently screw up his pay. Then this past week I had a really long day and he created this very sweet plan to help me wind down and have a good night, lit candles, made dinner, rubbed my back, etc.
Then, I started wondering about how I've never actually seen him go to/virtually do therapy. I've never seen him take meds, and when I asked what med he was on while he was still out of state, he kept saying he'd tell me/show me, but then he just never did even though I mentioned it several times. It felt like he didn't actually have meds and was hoping I'd forget/drop it. I'm so conflicted because he does really nice, sweet things for me, but I can't help but feel like maybe he's not being as honest as he said he was. I'm starting to think he was just saying what he knew I wanted to hear to want to maybe try again.
Recently, I told him that I think we should slow down and both of us should probably do some more of focusing on stabilizing ourselves independently, mentally and financially. When we had the conversation face to face, things went fine. I felt awful for hurting him. He was honest that, while I felt things were progressing to fast and I didn't think we were ready to be anything serious right now, the pace were going was already agonizingly slow for him. I mentioned I don't think it would be a bad idea for us to get experience with other people, as we were kids when we got together and don't really know ourselves as adults outside of each other. I just meant casual dates, not jumping into relationships with other people. Again, the face-to-face was open, honest, and respectful. But for the past couple of days he's been blowing up my phone at night with pitiful messages about not being good enough, saying we should be fwb and begging for a bj/sex despite me recently telling him I think I may be somewhere on the spectrum of asexuality, sending long messages saying his feelings don't matter, and it's really overwhelming and made me want to distance myself more.
Now, we'd already submitted a proposal to renew our lease for another year before all of this drama started. I just don't know if that's still a good idea. I go back and forth between thinking I should just give it more time and thinking I'd be an idiot to proceed. These things can't all be coincidences, can they? I like to think of myself as an intelligent person, but I have generalized anxiety, and it's not out of the realm of possibility for me to be overthinking things. When I bring up that something he said sounds like a lie or is suspicious, he says I'm overthinking. I can't tell if I should continue trying to be exclusive and rebuilding this. I did encourage him to come all the way back here, but I'm wondering now if maybe I was misinformed when I decided to do that. I'm sorry if this is all over the place, my thoughts are incredibly scattered at the moment.
TL;DR - My ex left to a different state to live with family and do some growing up. He and I were supposed to be rebuilding our relationship, but now that he's back here, I can't tell if he just said all the things he knew I wanted to hear but hasn't actually changed or if the patterns are really just coincidences and bad luck, and I should stop overthinking everything. I don't know if the sweet gestures are enough to outweigh what could genuinely just be a crap hand he's been dealt.

Does this exist? I've been looking for an app or site to show me where there are racks as my city council website has absolutely no data on this.

Hi there, I am planning on getting my first printer soon. I'm going to get an Elegoo Saturn 2, probably in early august. I have been doing lots of research and planning, and budgeting the cost of everything. Been planning on getting a printer, a wash and cure station, a respirator, screen protector, gloves, apron, extra feps, a ventilation fan, a window seal, piping for the venting system, etc. I'm getting everything I think I need to get to do this safely. My question is however, at what point is it safe to take off the PPE when in the room the printer is in?
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I am fresh out of university, and still live with my parents as here in Canada it is impossible to afford living on your own unless you make a decent salary that no starting position would ever offer. I can do it in the back corner of my basement, it is close to w window i can vent it out of, secluded mostly, and is the only space where things wont be disrupted in this house. However, on the other end of the basement, by dad has a work station there that the spends a lot of time at. I'm planning on printing during the days and letting him know when its going so he's not down there while it's printing, but after venting, at what point would it be safe to walk around down there without the respirator on? Is the basement going to have to be quarantined permanently? Or does it only stay in the air so long. The venting should get most of the fumes out, and the Saturn 2 lid is pretty air tight, but when pouring, and moving the print to the wash and cure station, fumes will get out.
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My question extends to sanding and filing down prints. I know you should have a respirator and protection when doing that cause resin bits get airborne? At what point can the PPE be taken off in the space there was filing? Am I safe to file in my bedroom where I would be painting and storing these models? or is that something I'm going to need to set up a table, chair, and lighting for in the basement as well.
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Sorry for the length of this, I've been planning for what I thought was everything but there appears to be some practical logistics to still consider before buying this damn thing. I really want the printer, as I have many plans for it and want to learn this hobby, but I want to make sure it's safe for both me and my family, (and my cat that hangs out in the basement a lot)

What if all of this is true, what if I have been touched by a higher power that spoke to me in its own way, am I chosen for something? I felt it tell me that I could choose for myself whether I wanted a positive or negative life, and that it would go to incredible extremes in either direction depending on where I steer it, just like everyone else would do i chose the good, but it's easier said than done. I need to leave behind all the short-term pleasures and live only according to God's will. But what makes this easier is that I know what happened to me is true.

I was just wondering if people had the same experience.
Most of my dreams take place in the same “universe” I guess. It’s loosely based on the city I live in, but it is extremely warped and there are things missing, added, or rearranged. It’s still somewhat recognizable, but I digress.
This weird alternate reality stays almost completely consistent between dreams, to the point my dream-self feels deja vu from visiting the same dream locations. I also remember the other night, I had a dream I was watching a video that I had also watched in a different dream (but I don’t think it exists in real life). So it was the same video at least twice. It’s almost like I travel to a different world when I sleep… for real.
What do you think?

Sooo I’ll try to make this as short as possible , I’ll also say real quick that I’m AWFUL at reading men + mens intentions so.. that’s why I’m here . ANYWAYS. I’m talking to this guy I’ve known for the past two years .. two years becuase I’ve moved back and forth withen that time and just recently came back here . But after I left the first time we didn’t really talk much. We’ve recently started talking again and hung out a few times , I really cannot read this guy , he’s not like other guys I’ve been around . He’s extremely kind and respectful. He does ask to hang out and we’ve been talking semi regular but here’s where I’m having the confusion . When we hang out he is super super quiet . He’s also not very touchy or physical, I can’t tell if it’s something to do with me or maybe that’s just his personality? I feel like I’m dragging conversation out of him when I’m around him which you shouldn’t be feeling like your doing with someone that likes you . So in that instance I would think , alright , he just dosnt like me. Then why does he continue to text me / ask to do things? In person I swear it feels like just a friends type thing. He in no way really flirts or does anything to insinuate more than friends . But I will say I suck at flirting but I am trying . I guess it just really bothers me how dry he is in person and feel like it’s he just wants to be friends or maybe that’s how he is ? I’ve always heard men are extremely straight forward and if they like you you’ll know , but I can’t tell with him 😭 I was just wondering if any of y’all have had similar experiences/ if anyone has any advice on what I should do to show this man I like him . As more than friends . Is it possible he’s just shy?