Beach houses plans designs

I’m 24 while the guy I’m with is 20 for context. I tried calling The Oz but their number isn’t working and I don’t use Facebook. But does anyone know if this bar allows it? Me and a friend are going cause it’s LGBT.
The other bars I wrote are: One eyed jacks Spotted cat music club Carousel bar Dragons den House of blues Beach bum Larry(I wrote it as closed temporarily)
I know that he won’t be able to drink in all of them but if he can go in than that’s all that matters to me.

Hi everyone, I'm currently setting up my first homeserver and I have some general questions regarding raid/backup. I have read a lot here and over at datahoarder and things are still not clear to me.
Befor I go on please remember that the data I plan on storing on my server is not super critical. I understand the value of e.g. the 3-2-1 backup plan for certain types of data, but if my house burns down or gets flooded, I will worry about other things then my media collection being gone...
I currently have two HDD drives, which I originally planned on using in RAID 1 configuration, in case any of the drives fail. Of course, I eventually stumbled on a lot of people informing me "RAID is not a backup." I read some more and found about snap-raid which seemed like a good alternative to me. It protects me against one of the drives failing as well as accidentally deleting all my data. I know that for two drives it is not really any better than just a manual backup, but if I every buy additional drives I safe (up to a point) on additional backup media, as (as far as I understand) I can use one drive to secure up to 3-5 drives with snapraid.
Now I get that there are scenarios against which snapraid does not protect my data! But it seems to be that it protects against the by far most common threat, ie. a drive failing or me accidentally deleting data.
Is there something I am overlooking? It seems to me that any form of backup protects you against some scenarios, while it fails against others. When people say "RAID is not a backup" do they just mean "RAID only protects you of one threat for data-loss, but not against others"? Then still it seems to me that RAID 1 or any form of mirroring/checksum calculation protects against the far most likely threat (a drive failing), or is there some comparably likely scenario that I am not seeing?

audio and video fade in from static A cup floats in front of the screen, whilest still in the static it turns 180° to face the screen Eye marks on the front open up to reveal a lime-ish green pool

Connection established< Circles appear in the lime pools, these circles can only be described as some sort of doomsday rose colored eyes

Heyo! This is the roomaid systems information! Roomaid is a Roomba who gained consciousness and electrokinesis through unknown means. Roomaid was unhappy with just being a Roomba though, and decided to accumulate features to look more Pokéish. Directly ontop of her oversized Roomba body is an oven which has been connected to the PC. This oven was specifically designed to quickly create meals no matter the location. The oven then has a shell on top of it to act as a storage department, with the shell using solar panels in it. The shell has a small divet in it so that the torso may easily be inserted. The torso itself acts as a connection to easily transport harvested energies, and contains a speaker, microphone, camera, and thermometer. There are then two arms and hands that are used by roomaid, these appendages function completely as human arms, and are also for providing first aid, though they can be attached to the body, they cannot function when attached to it. Lastly the head is an unnecessarily large tea cup, that is a super conductor floating above the torso at all times. This head has microphones, cameras, and speakers.
Roomaid's color scheme is gold, lime, and black and obviously it's ment to look like a maid. Roomaid has lots of plans for the future! It wouldn't be weird for something entirely new to roll around once enough stuff is accumulated. This is not the last of these messages you'll receive. So goodbye for now. Tata~!
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What's worked for me
I didn't try to change everything at once. My primary focus has been alcohol. If I had a bad day and wanted to stress eat, fuck it I gorged myself on unhealthy food. If I just needed to get fucked up, I ate some edibles. If I didn't want to go outside, I played video games. If I was tired, I slept in.
I had a secondary focus of exercising but honestly that is just to support the primary focus of not drinking. I found that setting a standard of running every other day for at least 20 minutes was achievable and curbed my cravings significantly. On top of that, I almost always did longer than 20 minutes.
At the beginning of each day, I make it a point to remind myself what I would be feeling like if I had drank the night before. I find this kind of positive reinforcement to really help when the sun starts to set. When the weather is nice and I want a beer, I try to think about how I wouldn't even be fully enjoying that weather today if I had drank the night before. Playing the tape forward (and backward) is immensely helpful to keeping my motivation.
Having short term, medium term, and long term goals has been really helpful. My short term goal basically just boils down to I will not drink today. My medium term goal is some sort of social plan to play board games or get a coffee the next day or the following day. Something that goes from being enjoyable to miserable if I'm hungover. Long term goal has been to run a 10k race.
Highlights

• I've run multiple 10ks (6.2 miles) and have a race this weekend where I expect to run it between 55-60 minutes
  
• I've read a lot more books
  
• My relationship with my significant other has grown
  
• I'm much less moody and irritable
  
• I landed my first contract of self employment (and it's a pretty solid one as well!)
  
• I've lost weight and my clothes fit better (although I haven't been weighing myself it's very obvious)
  
• My house is much cleaner and doing chores isn't some miserable act
  
• My OCD has been more stable, specifically my obsessive thoughts
  
• I'm sleeping better
  
• I've cut down on weed in the last week
  

The list goes on. I know it's not all roses and there are evenings and days I wish I was with my buddies having some brews but overall my quality of life is better without alcohol. I don't know if this is permanent but I know I'm not going to drink today and I know I'll be grateful regardless for the time spent away from it.

https://heathercoxrichardson.substack.com/p/march-21-2023
As you know, I try to write this record of modern America from the perspective of what stories will matter in 150 years (about the span between the present and the Civil War).
So, for all the chop in the water about the former president facing indictments, the story that really seems uppermost to me today is the visit China’s president Xi Jinping made today to Moscow for a meeting with Russia’s president Vladimir Putin.
National Security Council Coordinator for Strategic Communications John Kirby told reporters today that China and Russia would both like “to see the rest of the world play by their rules rather than the ones that…are enshrined in the U.N. Charter and what everybody else is…following.” Kirby said the White House sees the relationship of Xi and Putin as a “marriage of convenience.” He explained:
“In President Putin and Russia, President Xi sees a counterweight to American influence and NATO influence certainly on the continent and elsewhere around the world. In President Xi, President Putin sees a potential backer.” Putin needs Xi’s support because of his misadventure in Ukraine. There, Kirby said, Putin is “blowing through inventory. He’s blowing through manpower. His military is getting embarrassed constantly. They’ve lost greater than 50 percent of the territory that they took in the first few months of this war. He needs help from President Xi, and that’s what this visit was all about.”
“Now,” he added, “whether it results in anything, we’ll see.”
When a reporter asked Kirby if Xi would provide lethal aid to Russia, Kirby answered, “We don’t think that China is taking it off the table, but they haven’t moved in that direction. We’ve seen no indication that they’re about to or — or fixing to provide lethal weapons.”
The Institute for the Study of War concluded that the outcome of the meeting was likely less than Putin wanted. It noted that Putin represented the meeting as showing the two countries working together against an adversarial West, while Xi only said the two countries were working together. This is a significant step down from the stance China took before Russia’s 2022 invasion of Ukraine, in which it declared it had a “no limits partnership” with Russia, suggesting China is not inclined to give Russia all the support it needs for that war.
Putin has been trying to rally states in Africa to his cause and likely hoped Xi would help that effort, but he did not.
The People’s Republic of China (PRC) and Russia put out a statement deepening their cooperation, but Sam Greene, Director for Democratic Resilience at the Center for European Policy Analysis (CEPA) and Professor of Russian Politics at King's College London, noted that the economic benefits of the statement all flowed from Russia to China, including Russia’s announcement that it will use yuan for foreign transactions with Asia, Africa, and Latin America.
“This summit…brings home exactly how much Putin has lost,” Greene wrote. “Prior to the war—even after 2014—Putin occupied a position of strategic maneuverability. He could arbitrage between east and west, reaping windfalls for his regime along the way. That’s all gone now. Putin tells his people he's fighting for Russia's sovereignty. In truth, he’s mortgaged the Kremlin to Beijing.”
Meanwhile, Prime Minister Fumio Kishida of Japan met with Ukraine president Volodymyr Zelensky today in a surprise trip to Ukraine at Zelensky’s invitation. It is the first visit of a Japanese prime minister to a country at war since World War II and demonstrates Japan’s growing international foreign policy presence. Last month, when Japan pledged $5.5 billion in humanitarian aid to Ukraine, Kishida said: “Russia’s aggression against Ukraine is not just a European matter, but a challenge to the rules and principles of the entire international community.” Today, he confirmed Japan’s “solidarity and unwavering support for Ukraine.”
The next most important issue of the day, to my mind, was President Joe Biden’s designation of two new national monuments under the Antiquities Act of 1906: Avi Kwa Ame in Nevada and Castner Range in Texas. These are Biden’s second and third new monument designations. Last fall he created the Camp Hale–Continental Divide National Monument in Colorado, and in 2021 he restored the protections to Bears Ears, Grand Staircase–Escalante, and Northeast Canyons and Seamounts National Monuments that Trump had removed. Both of the new monuments cover land sacred to Indigenous American tribes. Together, they protect nearly 514,000 acres.
Biden also directed Commerce Secretary Gina Raimondo to start the process of designating a marine sanctuary in the Pacific covering 777,000 square miles.
Biden is advancing his promise to conserve American lands, but he is also answering criticism of his administration’s approval of the controversial Alaska Willow oil drilling project on March 13. ConocoPhillips had existing leases for the project, and it has bipartisan support in Alaska, where locals expect it will bring jobs and income, so after debate, the administration let the project move forward. But environmentalists and those who recognize the immediate need to address climate change vehemently opposed the project, launched lawsuits immediately, and criticized the president.
“Our national wonders are literally the envy of the world,″ Biden said as he announced the new monuments. “They’ve always been and always will be central to our heritage as a people and essential to our identity as a nation.″
But while conservation groups and tribal members cheered the new designations, the new Republican governor of Nevada, Joe Lombardo, said that the federal government was confiscating Nevada land—a red-hot issue in the home state of the Bundy ranchers who have engaged in armed standoffs with law enforcement officers over public land—and said the new Nevada monument is “a historic mistake that will cost Nevadans for generations to come.”
None of this is to say that Trump’s troubles are not important. Indeed, the indictment of a president is unprecedented, and there is good reason to watch it closely, not least because the Republican Party has tied itself to him so completely it is now responding to the growing tide of legal news by calling for the investigation or even the arrest of those handling Trump’s many lawsuits– an alarming development.
Right now, though, much of what we are seeing is being churned up by Trump himself, and it feels far less important than the fact it appears that neither the legal nor the political momentum is in his favor.
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Notes:
https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefing-room/press-briefings/2023/03/21/press-briefing-by-press-secretary-karine-jean-pierre-and-nsc-coordinator-for-strategic-communications-john-kirby-10/
https://www.understandingwar.org/backgrounderussian-offensive-campaign-assessment-march-20-2023
📷Sam Greene @samagreeneIf you're looking for the TL;DR on Xi's visit with Putin, it is this: China's domination of Russia is complete. (a 🧵) /15:27 PM ∙ Mar 21, 20233,364Likes1,050Retweets
https://www.cnn.com/2023/03/20/asia/japan-ukraine-kishida-zelensky-intl-hnk/index.html
https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefing-room/statements-releases/2023/03/21/fact-sheet-president-biden-designates-avi-kwa-ame-national-monument/
https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefing-room/statements-releases/2023/03/21/fact-sheet-president-biden-designates-castner-range-national-monument/
https://www.cnn.com/2023/03/14/politics/willow-project-oil-alaska-explained-climate/index.html
https://apnews.com/article/biden-avi-kwa-ame-nevada-conservation-willow-7378dadd793195bcedcc8562241cf54f
https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefing-room/statements-releases/2021/10/07/fact-sheet-president-biden-restores-protections-for-three-national-monuments-and-renews-american-leadership-to-steward-lands-waters-and-cultural-resources/

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As alternate me drove south, the pop music station switched back to the news channel. Whatever was going to happen in Washington DC in the alternate reality, I was screwed. My heart began to race as I pondered the possibilities. Building smashing would be insane, a creature dump would be the worst thing to get caught up in, an EMP Bubble complete with gassing would be terrifying as hell too, but I guess it would be a quick way to go. The entire city exploding would most likely be quick as well. Either way, and no matter how quick death could be, I didn't want to die at all.
Hopefully a task force made up of various other alternate me's would come rescue me. That's of course probably just a dream in the reality I'm in. For sure there is a team of alternate me's rescuing other alternate me's in some area of the multiverse. It's possible, so it's happening in some set of realities. I hope they come here too.
At around 8 AM, my stomach was rumbling. Luckily, my alternate self got the memo. Unfortunately, her response was cruel.
"Hungry back there? You don't need to eat anyway. It's not going to matter."
I'd probably find something to eat somewhere anyway. Hopefully…
Nothing new came up in the news. It was just talk about the three giants who attacked the UK. Other than that, the news reporters talked about the crashing worldwide economy on account of the Northeast China and Japan EMP Bubbles, the refugees emerging from EMP bubbles and claiming to have seen giants spraying gas on cities and towns, world leaders' reactions to the attacks, and the fall of the CCP, Russia, North Korea, Iran, the UK, Japan, along with the slow torture of the US. The reporters speculated about what the giants may want.
"They're taking out thousands of people in an obviously coordinated way, but we still don't know what they want."
"They for sure want us to be scared, and we definitely are, but yeah, why are they killing certain people who have no proven connection to each other?"
"Maybe that's part of their point. Make us go insane at their uncertainty."
As I browsed the internet, I came across a discussion thread claiming the giants were good because they were destroying all the fascist and flawed democratic governments. The comments of course disagreed, saying killing people is not the answer. It won't end fascism. Curious, I scrolled down to the very bottom to read the least popular comments.
"Yeah.. these giants are transforming this world for the better. Hopefully when their attacks are finished we can rebuild where they helped us out and just be better to each other"
Right… they helped us out… sure.
"Why are people expecting democracy in the aftermath of this? We need stronger leaders who can see past hypocrisy"
Giving people rights means being weak?
And of course… the craziest one.
"These attacks came out of nowhere. How? You're telling me giant titanic beings just popped out of nowhere and nobody had any foreknowledge? The government will do absolutely anything to control their citizens. China has collapsed? North Korea too? Even Iran? Yeah this was coordinated."
Because everyone's psychic and somehow knew beings like these would pop out of nowhere and catch everybody off guard? Also the UK, Canada, and Japan were attacked too. Why would the US attack its own allies? And itself? Especially its own facilities? This must be one of those every elite is a demonic Illuminati puppet theorist.
Hilarious comments aside, it's scary how people can believe just about anything is planned by the government. Demonic giants from who knows where cannot be the fault of any government. But that aside, there was yet another rabbit hole I stumbled down. On an obscure part of Reddit, there was a group who called themselves the Children of Satan's Titans. At first, I thought it was satirical, but as I read their posts, it was clear they were being serious. They thought the giants were bringing on armageddon and that they were supposed to lead the world after all is said and done. They even came up with nicknames for the giants.
The one that attacked Manhattan was the Grim Baron The one that attacked first was the Mother of Destruction for being the first giant to attack The one that forced Justin Trudeau into hiding was Lacertosis The giant duo who first attacked Newmarket and Aurora, Ontario were called the Ignis Duo
…and the list went on. The cult had come up with latin-translation names for each confirmed giant so far. There were 45 confirmed giants.
The car came to a stop. I slid my phone into my pocket and anticipated the worst. The three got out of the car. My alternate self's two cronies opened the trunk and told me to get out and to follow my alternate self or I'd be hit with another dart. I climbed out of the trunk, stepping onto a parking lot. As my alternate self began to walk, I followed. Cars were driving up and down the road, people were walking on the sidewalks. It was pretty busy. That made it even more saddening, as I knew the city was about to be attacked by giants.
"Where are we going?" I asked.
"Don't talk," alternate me said.
My alternate self was such a psycho. But why? What led her to berating every other version of her? How many times has this whole sort of thing happened? It can't be the first time. If it is, then that's a good thing… She isn't very experienced in this… but I can't let optimism cloud my judgment, especially with the pit of dread in my stomach. I was probably going to suffer whether I survived or not.
I want out of this hostel shit.
The three told me to wait outside a Starbucks. As I stood outside, I checked Reuters for some updates on the attacks. Interestingly, there weren't any. Once the three walked back out, we continued walking.
Over the following ~two hours, the three took me on a tour of the city. However, it was more of a goodbye tour, with my alternate self making snarky comments at every tourist attraction. I'll just list the stuff she said and the places we went to.
When we stopped in front of the White House…
"See this magnificent building here? It's about to be swarmed by a mass of wild creatures. Hope the president makes it out alive."
When we walked by the Smithsonian National Museum…
"All the lovely stuff in there is going to be torn to pieces"
When we walked by the Washington Monument…
"Creatures are going to scale that thing looking for guts to eat"
When we walked by the Capitol Building…
"Creatures this time, and 100 times worse"
When we walked by the Supreme Court of the United States…
"Ever wanted to cut the court in half? Well here we are"
When we walked by the National Academy of Sciences…
"New stuff to put in science books. History books even. Imagine if you had a 21st Century history book and could know how the rest of this century unfolds for this timeline."
While her comments were presented as if they were light, they creeped me the hell out. She was joking about my likely death and reminding me of all the terrible things that were about to happen. What kept me most on edge was the uncertainty of when the creatures would be dumped. There being no updates about the attacks gave me a calm before the storm vibe too. I began to jump at the sight of dogs running by. The Ian and Billy behind me couldn't stop giggling each time.
At the end of the tour, my alternate self led me to what at first looked like the entrance to a subway train station. It was called Dupont Underground. Alternate me led me down some concrete stairs and stopped at a door. She turned to me while pulling her phone out.
"I'm going to show you something from a different reality," she said, with a sinister look in her eyes. "This timeline, but one month from now."
She tapped around for a minute, then she held her phone in front of my eyes. A video was playing. The camera operator walked down a deserted city road. Every car was stalled in the middle of the road with shattered windows and some had huge body dents. I saw the Dupont Underground sign and realized it was the street we were on. The camera operator took a right down the concrete steps. At the bottom was a body covered in blood and fleshy holes. The camera operator walked up to the body and zoomed in on its face. I recognized her. It couldn't be. But it probably was.
"This is you after having your guts sucked out by creatures," alternate me said.
My heart sank. An odd eeriness overtook me. That was me. Dead. My unmoving body laying on the ground. I was looking at my own corpse. I had never seen a dead alternate version of me before. That was about to be me. Technically it was an alternate version of me, but it mirrored what was going to happen to me. I shivered with dread.
"I… I'm…… I'm going to be eaten alive"
"Oh suck it up," alternate me said.
"Yeah," Ian added.
"Don't cry too much," Billy added.
"Don't cry?" I asked. "I was shown my fate you shit!"
"And there's no way to avoid it," alternate me said. "Now, we're taking you for another walk. This time, just a stroll."
"What is the point exactly?" I asked.
"Exercise," alternate me shrugged.
My alternate self took me on a long walk up north. She didn't say a word to me. Neither did Billy or Ian. I made sure to keep my mouth shut, anxious I'd be taken into a back alley and be injected with fire ants of all things. After an hour of walking, I became exhausted. My knees felt like they were going to snap, I was sweating all over, and my breaths were shallow. My stomach began to ache from not eating. I was still too anxious to talk. We went to a McDonald's, but alternate me told me I wasn't allowed to have anything. She had to have been taunting me.
We walked north for another exhaustive aching hour. I was thirsty as fuck. We stopped at a convenience store where alternate me gave me a water bottle. It wasn't something I expected, but I guess he did it just so I wouldn't faint from heat exhaustion. It made the following hour of walking refreshing, but my stomach was still numb. At least we were walking back though. But it dawned on me that it only meant my death was closer than ever. The pit of dread in my stomach deepened, distracting me from the numbness in my stomach. There was a hint of sadness behind every thought I had. I played a song in my head as I continued to follow behind my alternate self. The songs I heard in the Creature Dump Aftermath footage. Just me playing the memory I had of them back in my head calmed me down a bit. For the following hour after that, I anticipated the moment where my legs would just give out. The three psychos would have to understand, but they probably wouldn't… and so I just kept walking, hoping my legs wouldn't give out.
After four hours of walking, I could see the White House right up ahead. I needed a break. I thought it was over, but then we began circling the freaking Washington strip.
I thought I could give out in a place where there were no back alleyways or any place of the sort. I'd get quite a bit of attention. Maybe too much for my alternate self to handle even with two others. But I'd still be in the city… damnit. There was no way I could run either, being exhausted like hell.
Finally, after circling the Washington strip a tenth time, my alternate self told me I could sit down on a nearby park bench, but that I still couldn't eat. I took the offer and rested on the empty bench. Euphoria was all I felt for a good minute, then my adrenaline went back up.
She's letting me rest. Finally… Yes…. I'm going to die but this is worth it right now, even though it really isn't.
"Alright, now I'm going to show you something you're going to want to see," Billy said.
Oh god… another horrific video… I assume.
She held her phone in front of my eyes. It was a private Instagram live stream featuring two men who looked around my age.
"Hello, Nicole," said the one on the left. "This is your cousin, Sam."
"I'm your cousin Markus," said the one on the right.
They're my cousins? Oh, okay. What are they doing?
"We're in a room in the Niagara Falls Observatory," Sam said. "We aren't allowed to come out. We don't know why."
"We don't know who put us in here," Markus said. "Just two girls. One looked very similar to you… Your doppelganger I guess."
A boom echoed from somewhere off camera.
"What was that?" Markus asked.
Multiple booms began echoing from somewhere offscreen, getting louder and louder and louder. Sam and Markus both looked to their right. The booming stopped. A crashing noise echoed from above, followed by an avalanche-like rumble. Sam and Markus looked up, then the stream ended.
Billy navigated to a YouTube livestream of CTV news helicopter footage. A giant was looking around as missiles struck it. But a background detail caught my eye. The Falls.
What the fuck…? did she just show me a live stream of my cousins' deaths? What the hell…?
She skipped back a minute. The giant smashed the tower down, creating a plume of smoke.
Uhhhhh…
"I hope they treated you well," she said.
"Nicole?!" I shouted at my alternate self, who was standing a meter away from Billy. "That's too far!"
"It was my idea," Billy said with a huge smile on her face.
"You're a fucking psycho!" I shouted and stood up. "Were they from this timeline or my own?!"
Billy stood there with her hand on her hip, continuing to smirk. "I'm not telling you," she said. She turned around and walked away. Ian and my alternate self followed.
"Where are you going?" I shouted.
"Have fun," alternate me said as she walked away.
The three walked out of my sight. I stared on, once again wondering what the hell made them so psychotic. They're just evil versions of people. That's all I knew.
I checked the time. 6:35 PM. I sat down and teared up. I was about to be eaten by wild gut sucking creatures. A girl just executed my cousins.
I'm still trapped in this dark reality.
At least I won't have to deal with those three ever again… or anybody…
How painful is it going to be? I don't want to go out in pain… but it looks like that's going to happen.
There's no way I can get out of here before the creatures come. At least, I assume so. Wait… what if my alternate self gave me enough time to get out of DC, but wanted me to think she left me alone because the creatures would be here in a matter of minutes after he left? I was probably overthinking, but I'm not going to take that chance. I need to get out of here while I can.
I trekked in a random direction. South. I wasn't going anywhere near Dupont Underground. My heart sank at the thought of being there. But I wasn't going to stop without eating. I marched into a convenience store and bought anything I could, then I found a park bench and ate everything I had just bought. I was met with some acid reflux in my mouth due to my guts clenching at the idea I may be overthinking alternate me's possible plan, but other than that, I stomached it pretty well.
But as I was eating, I overheard a conversation a couple of people were having.
"So you think this is the end of the world?"
"Maybe. I wouldn't be surprised at this point."
A little kid began balling their eyes out.
"Mommy, he said the world is going to end!"
"The world isn't going to end… It's just going to be… changed. Different."
"Did you hear about the cluster attacks though? They're going for specific people for sure. I can't wait for this stuff to be figured out," an older voice said.
"Cluster attacks?"
"Yeah those giants hit over 6000 houses and apartment buildings all over the world around an hour ago," the older voice explained.
"Where did you hear that?"
"The news. It's crazy."
"I heard there was an attack in Pittsburgh, but not much information was given about it."
"I haven't heard anything about that attack."
None of them know… I hope they're driving out of the area right about now.
As I walked by a short orange building, an overbearing presence struck me.
"Oh no, oh god," I whispered to myself. "I hope that's all in my head."
The cars driving up the road in my direction slowed and people walking in my direction looked up. Some of them began pointing. Dread overtook me to the point I decided to stop walking. I froze. If the next creature dump was happening in seconds, I was screwed.
I kept walking, avoiding my curious urge to look where everyone was looking. Two people turned around and ran. The roaring of car motors began to get faster. I took a glance behind me. My heart stopped. Two giants stood some miles away, holding giant sack-like objects. The two giants tilt the sacks and thousands upon thousands of wild creatures fell out. As the creatures rained down, I turned my head back in the direction I was headed in and sprinted down the sidewalk.
Where do I go?
The river. Can the creatures swim? I'll take any chances.
I ran down the sidewalk, in the direction one of the rivers was in. The adrenaline was peaking. I couldn't think about anything other than survival. I ran through a small park, navigating the benches and people frozen in fear. I crossed the next street without looking at the traffic lights, I nearly tripped over chairs, I almost bumped into people running from my right. I ran that way for seven blocks straight, almost being hit by a car three times. I carefully navigated across a main street. As I crossed the street, air raid sirens began to blair from all directions. I found a one way road to my left and just sprinted for my life.
Hopefully the river is close.
At the end of the road was a parking lot. Nobody was there. I sprinted across it until I found a trail. Down the trail, I saw the river. Boats too. I ran along the trail and saw a spot away from the boats to jump into the water. A couple explosions shook the ground beneath me as I ran. I hopped over the fence and jumped into the water.
I swam until I got to the middle of the river. I glanced around. Everything seemed calm and normal in all directions until a loud bang hit my right ear. I looked to my right and saw a cloud of smoke rising from a triple arched bridge in the distance. People jumped off the bridge and landed in the river below. The air raid sirens continued to blair as fighter jets flew by in the distance. I just needed to stay in the river until the creature invasion blew over.
I looked to my right and saw two creatures crawl across the building beside the parking lot I ran through. Three creatures ran onto the pier. The adrenaline worsened.
Time to find out if these beasts can swim.
They ran around and jumped onto some of the boats. A painful scream echoed from one of them. A man was stumbling around with a creature attached to his head and stomach. He pulled on its tentacles, but they held their grasp. He nudged himself sideways into the water. Seconds later, the creature started squirming around in the water, with its tentacles flailing about. I shivered. It was a terrifying sight. The man floated on the surface, shaking his head and moving his arms as if he were a bird. Soon the creature stopped moving and just floated in one spot like a dingy.
I'm good. But how long will it be until the military clears them? I'll just have to wait.
Explosions, gunshots, and emergency sirens from every direction, along with the roar of fighter jets flying overhead, were all I could hear. I couldn't hear the waves washing up against my own ears, or the sound of my own voice. I decided to play those songs in my head again to pass the time. I played other songs in my head too, all while hoping some soldiers would see me, then rescue me.
After a good amount of time in the water, the sounds of explosions seemed to be concentrated on an area to the north. I could only speculate it was the government strip. I looked to my right again and noticed a dozen creatures were occupying the pier.
This wasn't getting better anytime in the next hour. Hopefully I'll be in the clear soon. Once I am, I need to make sure my alternate self cannot find me.
At one point, I woke up to me being pulled out of the water by some Marines. They put me on a boat and asked me some questions, then they gave me some water. After the rescue, they took me to a refugee camp somewhere in southern Virginia. I was given food, water, and my own little room with a bunk bed. I sat down on the bed, hoping I'd be safe from the creatures. I unzipped my pocket and pulled out my phone to read up on the creature dump in Washington DC. These were the top headlines on CNN, for those curious:
"WILD CREATURES OCCUPY DC METRO AREA"
"All branches of the US Armed Forces are responding to the attack on Washington - Yes, even the Space Force as the US speculates the giants are of extraterrestrial origin"
"Images from above: the White House, US Capitol moderately damaged by wild creatures"
"Five major politicians, 2 billionaires, and 1 celebrity confirmed dead in Washington DC after Creature Dump"
""Nuclear weapons aren't likely to be used, but they have not been ruled out""
"Pennsylvania, Virginia set up refugee camps for predicted mini-flood of refugees from EMP-striken, gassed parts of Ohio, Kentucky, and West Virginia"
"Global Recession: Why economists are torn on whether or not the economy will return to pre-attack levels"
"Refugees from Florida EMP Bubbles: "We went into town after the gassing and we saw people and animals on the ground, everywhere""
""We need FEMA" EMP Bubble refugees who are staying in their states criticize their state governments for not declaring an emergency"
"MILITARY: There's no way to protect any type of technology from an EMP Bubble"
A guy with brown hair who looked to be in his early 20s walked into the room. He introduced himself as my roommate. We talked about the attacks and their potential ramifications.
"I don't know what's next for the world," I said. "I'm scared."
"We're going to be at war for a while," he said. "Good vs bad. We need to ready ourselves for what's to come. Everything is different now."
"I mean, at this point, I'd just end it if I didn't feel like I had a chance to survive this new world," I said. "Especially being in the initial attacks… I thought about ending it a few times."
"So you're a coward?" He asked.
"What do you mean?"
"Why would you leave people behind to suffer?"
"I'm not the one making them suffer"
"Yes you are… by killing yourself… people want you around…"
"Dude… nobody owns me. Do you think I'm a slave or something? People shouldn't be relying on others for their happiness."
"You are so stupid"
"Are you that entitled? Do you feel you need to treat people like entertainment animals? People are individuals. They're not your Mom's nipples either."
"I just… can't with selfish people like you"
"Honestly, if you can't respect others' choices and call victims cowards, you're just like the monsters and their little gut eating creatures."
"I don't understand why you'd support selfish people," he said. "You're like my ex-girlfriend."
"Maybe if you respected her individualism more, accepted the fact that mental health issues exist, talked about and validated her issues, she wouldn't have done it."
"Oh, okay, so you're okay with what those Empire State Building jumpers did?"
"Yes," I said. "They acted on survival instincts. It was either get eaten or jump."
"A real person would fight!"
"Survival instincts don't exist to you, do they?"
"I'm not talking to you, man," he said, climbing up to his bunk.
He had me until the victim blaming. Anyway, I went back to reading the news and reminded myself I'm not responsible for other people. Sometime after that, I went to sleep. Sometime later, I woke up to the sound of gunshots and shouting. I looked out the window. Two of those hideous creatures crawled by. I closed the curtains. I checked the news, hoping there wasn't another creature dump nearby.
"A COUPLE DOZEN WILD CREATURES REPORTED OUTSIDE DC METRO AREA"
"US East Coast on high alert as wild creatures make it past military checkpoints around DC Metro Area"
"Security video from Philadelphia captures creature that came from DC Metro area"
""V-BASCBHOB-TJCPSZAMDLSA-IKPJJ-HBCHLL" The FBI is investigating the string of letters scratched into the Washington Monument by the creatures"
"OPINION: After a week of teasing, it's the US' turn to fall"
I want out of this painful chaotic dark reality. Maybe there's a slip nearby. It probably wouldn't take me back to my home reality, but anything would be better than this. I've been to dark realities, like one where there was a third world war in the 1960s followed by a fourth world war in the 2010s, in which technology was a bit more advanced, but Eastern Europe and the Eastern United States were irradiated. There was a darker reality where giants attacked multiple metropolitan areas around the world. EMPs were used, but they weren't EMP Bubbles. People were crying, hoping their friends were okay. It was more mysterious, with every initial attack happening within the darkened areas. It started in New Zealand, South Korea, and Japan. Then it spread west to the US in about a day.
Something heavy banged on the door. Shit… I opened the window, clawed the screen apart, and climbed out. I stepped onto the grass, then I sprinted away. I needed to find the gate. It was probably guarded, but I could find a way somehow. Not to sound too optimistic.
The gate was up ahead. There were three dead soldiers lying on the ground around it. After navigating my way through it, I sprinted across the street and into a dense forest.
Half an hour into running, my knees became weak again. I sat down up against a tree to catch my breath. I must've relaxed for a bit too long, as I essentially just blinked and the sun was shining and birds were chirping. I checked the time. 8:02 AM. I checked the news. There were no new updates.
Where do I go now?
There was no place for me to go that I knew of. Slips weren't extremely common. They weren't active 24/7 either. Until I found one, I had to deal with the possibility of being crushed, gassed, or eaten. I didn't expect my alternate self to find me. I was outside of the DC Metro area. To him, I could be anywhere.
Unless of course she tapped my phone… but she most likely would've shown up by now if he had. Knowing me, he probably would've gone to a reality where I famously snuck out of the refugee camp and my steps were publicly retraced, then he'd use that information to find me. Looks like I just need to walk in a direction that is almost one I'd go in but is not one I'd go in, in this situation. I chose to walk in the direction of the ocean.
As I walked, a bird flew right by me. I watched it fly away, then vanish out of thin air.
Yes!
I went over to the spot with a good adrenaline rush coming on. I pulled out my phone and pulled up Reuters. I refreshed the page. The headlines were still about the giants. I walked back and forth once a minute for some time, clamping the leaves to the ground in the process. The headlines were the same. I was desperate, but I dreaded my alternate self finding me. I layed on the dirty ground, letting the leaves brush against my hair. Every few minutes or so, I'd refresh the page and there would still be news about the giants. I wanted to be home, where everything is safe, peaceful, and quiet compared to this place. I didn't want to hear another boom or a certain growl again.
A number of minutes later, I checked the news again.
"Russia warns US over Black Sea drone flights"
"No path to peace: 5 key takeaways from Xi and Putin's talks in Moscow"
"Russian soldier accused of war crimes in absentia after audio files intercepted"
There was nothing about the giant attacks. The headlines were normal again! I slipped! But did I slip into the right reality? A safe one?
I Googled the attacks. Only movie scenes and recaps came up. I had to be home. I had to be far away from wherever my alternate self was. My heart dropped for a second as I realized one of those creatures was roaming around in what may be our reality… I'm sure it'll be taken care of. I hope it's taken care of soon though. It's going to eat a few people for sure, and I hope I'm not one of them.
I got distracted by the sound of an animal moving through the bush beside me. I brought my head up and saw the head of a tentacled creature. It sat still on the side of the bush. Its tentacles brush against the dirt. I laid my head back down. My heart began to speed up as the thing sat there. If it saw me, I would have no chance of living for another minute. The leaves served as a barrier between it and I. I couldn't see it when laying down and it couldn't see me at its height.
"Hey!" A man shouted from some distance further to my left. "Are you alright over there?"
The leaves ruffled. The man looked down in confusion, then he jumped. As he began to turn around, the creature climbed onto him. He fell to the ground as the creature's tentacles grabbed his arms and chest. He screamed. The scream was gut wrenching, but at least this was my ticket out. I got up and ran as fast as I could through the bushes and trees around me. Once I came across a road, I took a left and continued sprinting. My heart was pounding out of my chest. At one point, I came across a river. I stood still on the shoreline, hoping that thing wasn't about to jump out of the bushes. I turned around. Nothing.
I went to my Reddit account and found my previous update. I'm back. I'm going to dump this update here, then hopefully I'll find a good place to stay while running. If I go back home to my parents, I'm going to need a defense mechanism. My alternate self wanted me to be in that dark terrifying reality. She probably doesn't know I'm still alive.
Oh, and if you live in or around Richmond, Virginia… stay safe. The creature moves fast and, as you know, it eats your guts.
Now I hear three familiar voices. I need to run.

So within anarcho-communism, how would basic living essentials (housing, food etc.) be distributed to all?
My understanding is that different systems advocate either the state (planned economy) or market forces to ensure everyone has access to these basic needs.
Specifically, I'm having trouble understanding how non-market anarchists would go about this in the absence of a state.
If the answer is that community bodies (like councils) would be entrusted to do this, isn't this a state of sorts (monopoly on violence extending over a given area)?

Sorry, this is a lot. Please stay with me, as I feel helpless.
Hello, I (28, F) and my husband (29, M) are having some financial issues. We have been together for a little over two years and married for about two months. We have shared our finances for quite a while now. I work 35 hours a week. I have 2 elementary aged children from a previous marriage, so my working hours are dependent on their school. When not at work, I am cooking, cleaning and taking care of the children, it's not leisure time. I earn about a third of what my husband makes. He typically works an average of about 60 hours a week and more if its available.
Living together for over a year, I have always transferred my checks in to our joint account. Our bills are always paid, on time, and we always have what we need as far as food, etc. Although there were a few times he would get payday loans to make it all work. (I despise payday loans)
My problem comes in here. Husband has always had a tendency to buy unnecessary things, strictly because he wants them. The majority of the time this is done by swiping a credit card (he has many) or using some kind of payment service like, Klarna, after pay and PayPal. Sometimes these are Pay-in-4 services (a payment every other week for a total of four payments) or monthly payments for however long plus interest.
I knew that he did this often, but in a "Hey, I bought this today, its only $15.00 a month." I knew they were happening and I knew the monthly amount. I didn't really like it, but since we were not married yet, I didn't feel right telling him what to do with his money. I did however mention to him I felt uncomfortable with how often it was and how many of these payment plans we had scheduled in our monthly line up.
Once we got married, and after expressing my concerns several times, we sat down and did a full layout of every single bill. Not just the payments themselves but total amount due, minimum payments, all of it. I was shocked. The amount he had racked up in payment plans alone was ridiculous. Not to mention the credit card debt he was in.
We currently rent. A year ago we bought a piece of property which we plan to build on in five years time. He has a truck he is still paying on and camper he is selling but that we are holding the title on and still making payments for. I have no debt apart from a children's clothing store card, which i use and pay down to make sure I am always able to provide clothes for my children(usually twice a year at Christmas and back to school.) at a limit of $350.00. I also have a credit card through my bank at a limit of $3,500.00. That is all of my debt.
Not including our property payment, the truck or the camper, we are close to $40,000.00 in debt. less than $4,000.00 of that is mine. Upwards of $35,000.00 in credit card debt. His debt.
If you total all of our debt, we are looking at around $160,000.00.
Ok. Still with me? Here is where the issue comes in.
I sat down on Microsoft Excell and charted out a snow ball plan for all of our debt. from start to finish, we could have everything, including the property we just bought list year, paid off in 35 months. that is less that 3 years. To me, that sounds amazing. He agreed to the snow ball plan. I also asked him if we could budget because we never have.
All we had prior to this was a list of bills due, the amount, and the day they were due. Its been a nightmare but he will not budget because "this is how He's always done it, and he always figures it out." Personally, getting payday loans is not it "working" for him.
Being frustrated, knowing we have the financial means, and knowing there is a solution that would work for us, I asked him " Can I have 2 to 3 months? Please let me try it my way and if you don't like it, we will go back to how you were doing it." He agreed.
So, I had just received my tax return. My plan was to make an "every dollar" budget. i was going to do the envelope system. cash only at stores. lunch money, spending money. I even budgeted clothes, date night, all the way down to our shampoo. I spent HOURS.
My thought was, that i could take my tax return, use it to pay our bills one month ahead (marches bills) and start our envelopes. then any income that we acquired throughout the month of march would be set aside for Aprils bill. We would stay a month ahead, and would have a whole month to meet our goals for next month. opposed to going paycheck to pay check. We would have what we needed, when we needed it. No one would need to feel bad about buying a shirt they needed because we had the money set aside just for that. He agreed to this... until he didn't
He decided he didn't like the idea of the cash envelopes being in the house, even in the safe. he wanted it to stay in the bank. so we decided we would have personally accounts, just for our personal money, a separate saving from the checking and our joint account for bills. the only cards we would carry were our personal. the Joint account cards would stay in the safe. They have not.
the money was supposed to stay in the account until the 1st of the next month. we could see exactly how on track we were. then we would pay all of those bills, and start all over, working towards the next month. This dosnt work for him either. if its in the account, he want to use it to pay bills early. so i never can keep track of it we are on target or not.
Husband helped me figure how much money should go in each spending "account". we decided 60 bucks a week for him to buy lunch was good and I got $25.00 seeing as I mostly eat at home. we wanted to do actual spending money, personal fun money, but because of the amount of small payment plans we have, we couldn't do that right away. So, it understood, that your lunch money was yours to do with as you saw fit.
if you wanted to brown bag it and pack your lunch and save or spend your money on something else, that's your choice....
He gets $240.00 a month in lunch money. In the first week, he had spent his lunch money on a pressure washer, and accessories that he got in payments. lets say $40.00 a month. then some hunting gear, a new gun, and some bullets. all in payments. so this he only had $14.00 left a month.
thats fine. he was within the budget right? if he wanted to pack his lunch for the next 3 months and use his money for something else. fine.
but He's not doing that. he is using his lunch money of fun purchases and them continuing to use the joint bill account for lunch. 90.00 last week alone spent on snacks, coffee and lunch. over not his weekly budget, but his monthly.
I used that tax money, that i could have used to pay of my personal debts and have my sons dental work paid for in full, to get us a month ahead so that we could budget, and it be smooth sailing. now, he has squandered it on CRAP. and I'm left with nothing to show for it and were back to where we started.
HELP! i thought we were on the same page. at this rate we will always be stuck in the same place and will never grow. what do I do? it's going to cost me my sanity and my relationship if there is no resolve.

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The Wrecking Crew documentary- YouTube (free)

I'm having the shrubs in front of my house replaced when the weather warms up. My plan is to use a drip hose to keep them watered at first. I would like some guidance for how often to water them when they're new, and if that amount of water changes as they mature.
I don't know anything about setting up drip irrigation, so any tips are appreciated. The run will be about 35-40 feet.
I'm in Delaware zone 7A, and will be planting cherry laurels and hydrangeas as the main plants, plus vinca vine as a ground cover under the shrubs.

Hi everyone!
I have a brief question regarding the new Right To Rent law pertaining to obligation to demonstrate a visa, cannot find my answer online really, so hopefully someone here has experience :)
I’m European (continent) and got a job at the university, starting in September. Because of internal things (long story) my visa is a bit delayed and looks like my visa won’t go through until late June. I was really hoping though to make the move in August, because I’ll be able to get help from family/friends.
Was therefore planning to come down end of may for three weeks to do a bit of house hunting. However, at that point I won’t be in possession of a visa just yet. How strict are real estate agents/private landlords about having a visa when signing a lease? Is it really a must? Even if I could show the job offer from the university?
Thanks!

Hi All,
Apologies to bring this topic at personal finance subreddit. I was unable to find a relevant subreddit and feel free to redirect as necessary. Writing this to understand what my options are.
Background: I am 36 YO working female and going through bouts of anxiety and depression for the past few months. I am an immigrant in Canada and do not have family (other than my spouse) here. The reason for this depression seems to be the issue with endometriosis which has largely gone untreated and unrecognized in Canada and unsuccessful fertility treatments IVF and IUI over past few years (not recent). All this has caused me to lead a dull life and I am unable to focus on work and house. This has also caused me and my spouse to drift apart in relationship to an extent. My family health practitioner knows about most of the above things and recognize this as an issue.
Current situation: I am thinking to take a short career break (few months) due to the above-mentioned reasons. However, I really need to be close to my maternal family (not in Canada) and also explore treatment options there. Healthcare in my country is faster if you can pay for it and being closer to my family would bring the required support structure. The past few days have been terrible, and I have been unable to sleep for most days. I need this break sooner than I thought as it has been difficult to get up and think about anything else.
Request for advice: I want to understand from anyone who may know or have come across such situations or have been managing such cases from HR or insurance standpoint.
· I understand I may be able to apply for short term disability under mental health reasons, but what is the maximum duration that the employer’s insurance provider may approve. Also, I know this is a grey area but would I be eligible for this even if I travel outside Canada. I have no intention of hiding this from my employeinsurance provider.
· Also, endometriosis is a known medical condition and may not be covered under pre-existing condition clause. I understand this is a complex issue with not much awareness around it relating to how it can impact patients’ life. (Link)
· I would like to go ahead with my plan with or without short term disability approval from insurance provider at a loss of pay. Is anyone aware if I have rights in term of employment protection? Basically, I would still have a job if I return in 3-6 months and not be terminated. I have been with the employed for ~ 1 year.
Thanks for patiently reading through this. Writing this at a 4 Am sleepless round. Will post in the morning. Any advice or feedback is highly appreciated.

Hi, my name is Lily. I collect rock/punk vinyls and swords.
Did I get your attention yet? I have photos of Needle from A Song of Ice and Fire pinned to my profile if you're curious. I'm definitely looking for a long-term romantic partner and I'm not vanilla, but I don't really like to talk about my bedroom tastes in a public setting. If you're not a leftist or open to dating a Jewish woman, we won't mesh well. I am also looking for platonic friends. I'm a voracious reader, anxiously awaiting book six in A Song of Ice and Fire and waiting for House of the Dragon season two. I'm very introverted and shy so don't be surprised if it takes me awhile to open up. I'm in university working toward my Masters in psychology.
I adore my emotional support dog and prefer swimming in the ocean to long walks on the beach. I'm looking for something long-term and substantial, whether that's romantic partnerships or friendships. I'm very guarded when talking to strangers; please don't hold that against me because I'm very warm once you've earned my trust. Anime, manga and video games have saved my life more than once; my favorite game series are Legend of Zelda, Dragon Age, Pokemon, Mass Effect and Kingdom Hearts.
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If any of this resonates, feel free to reach out! Thanks for reading!

First of all... the cinematography. The wide landscape shots. The air combat. The sunset chasing the dragon... just wow.
The sound design. The roar of the beasts, the blasterfire in the temple and the subtle clinging noise when Bo lost the shoulder piece.
And lastly, the story. The episode last weak was a bit slower than what we are used to from the Mandalorian, but this felt weeks episode felt so spot on.
We see Grogu becoming the next Mandalorian jedi. Seeing him school the kid was so satisfying to watch. And he got another armor piece. Fuck yeah. Also, I think the crabs were another hint on Grogu's strong animal friendship force ability, as they all left after he did.
While the CotW are somewhat an extremist group, it feels so cool seeing Bo as a leader. After last week I expected drama beween her and Viszla, but this mission went so smooth, and the plot twist with the big guy being the father was a nice touch. Din and him are basically square now, after that business on Navarro.
The air combat in this episode felt so amazing. The fight with the dragon was hectic, yet you could see whats going on. I expected a dark saber slice through the wing, but I'm glad the croc got a snack. I was concerned about the chicks, but seeing them walk out of Bo's ship I absolutely lost my shit.
The Armorer going like, "yeah, sure you did, bud" qas funny as hell and I can't wait for the Mythosaur plot to be resolved. If ever.
The only gripe I have with this episode is the firepower of the LAAT's cannons. We see the missed shots causing explosion the size of a house, yet the hits could be mistaken for being hit by a pebble. But at least it explains why Count Dooku got away in Attack of the Clones, apparently speeders are immune to this sort of weapon.
This isn't a rant, or review or anything of this sort. Just over exited rambling.

We met about 3yrs ago and from 1st date I told her that I had moved to the country I'm in now to build a community center for a project I work with, and that I wanted a family. I talked about it often to be sure she was onboard. I've always dreamed of having a place I can invite friends and family to come and stay anytime they want or need, and I build humanitarian projects and would love to invite people to come build them together rather than online as I currently do.
As things got more serious we had a long talk about her dreams and I asked her if she was ok with mine as it was important to me that i know we are going in the same direction in life of we are together.
She didn't like talking about what I was trying to build with her, which was odd as it was part of our future, she didn't want to be involved in planning and I respected her decision even if I didn't understand it. She also avoids taking about children like the plague but when pushed says she is open to it just not ready, which is understandable although we are getting close to a biological limit. I've suggested freezing eggs but she didn't like that idea.
We got married.
She had some conditions to the community center which made it a little more tricky and a lot more expensive, like that she needed to be no more than 30mins from a major city. It was a bit if a surprise but I could work with that.
Those conditions kept creeping further over time then she dropped what to me was a bomb. She said she's a 'city person and needs to live in a city' and 'she doesn't want to live around other people'.. which is pretty tough if you're building a community.
We talked it through and I suggested we could have our own house with own entrance away from others and she'd not have to see anyone else except if she wanted to. She was ok with that.
Due to Covid lockdowns I couldn't begin when I planned, then she found the city I picked and was living in too humid so we moved to another place, which we both found wasn't quite right so we're planning on moving again.
The issue now is that she only wants to move to biggest cities of the richer EU countries. Most of northern Europe is too cold/wet for an outdoor place like that, and expensive so she wants Lisbon or Barcelona but I can't afford land 30mins on public transport outside of those. It could work in a big building but she's not ok with that, it has to be a plot of land with our own house. the original plan was a cheap plot of land far away from cities, which I could afford I've been stretching and adapting as hard as possible to try and find a solution that works for us both.
We were looking at Valencia, she wasn't keen but was ok to look. I don't think I can afford it there though as prices are going crazy and it has to be a big plot if land near the city we can build on. I think I could afford it in Malaga but it's too small so she's not ok to look there.
This morning she came to me and said she feels like she's getting in the way of my dreams. I wanted to say no and reassure her we can make this work but couldn't. I've tried very hard to be accommodating but it feels like we're want completely opposite lives.
She loves the anonymity of the crowd in a big city, the shops and clubbing but only at the biggest venues.
I love her and enjoy all our time together. I would enjoy it we could do more together socially. She struggles with mental health and most times I make plans they give her anxiety and I end up cancelling to support her instead. I can live with that. I'm not sure if I can live with giving up on my dreams though, and feel like I've been as accommodating as I can be without doing so.
I try to avoid thinking about it mostly, but sometimes thought that it feels pretty unfair as I was so overly clear what future I wanted and was building, and she didn't tell me at the time it wasn't what she wanted.
So I don't know what to say to her now. I can't say she isn't holding back my dreams. I'm not sure I can say anymore that we can find a way to make it work unless I can make a lot more money, and even then.. it's a community center. She is going to be living around other people. Is it going to be enough that I divide our living area or is she going to be unhappy?
I'm lost. Anyone got any advice?

Hi everyone, I am a frontend developer who is new to React. My team are considering changing our old-version FluentUI to other UI frameworks due to its lack of richness of components.
We have several options though, bur for a frontend newbie like me can't really tell their differences. Below is my results after some research:

1. Ant Design ✨ Highly readable code, the structure is similar to FluentUI ✨ Rich components ☠️ Most Github issues appear in Chinese ☠️ There was a Christmas Easter egg issue few years ago (See https://github.com/ant-design/ant-design/issues/13098)
   
2. Material UI ✨ Highly customizable ✨ Rich components ☠️ Components look google-y (but isn't it customizable?) ☠️ Customizability makes the code hard to read
   
3. Chakra UI ✨ Simple, lean code ✨ Good-looking components ☠️ Bad performance on complex apps ☠️ Less richer components (their free plan doesn't even have a table with checkboxes?!)
   

BTW, we're using React 16, so whether the library supports React 18 or not isn't a big deal. Kindly leave your favorite UI library and some reasons in the comments! Thanks🙏

I don’t want sympathy, reassurance, affirmations, etc. I need logical, statistical advice on if to move on, and then how to move on.
Would you advise/suggest I separate from my husband? And if I do, how would you advise me to do it in the best way possible? If not, what would you suggest?
Being 100% transparent, forthcoming, and grounded in reality: I am not a catch. I have many “fatal” physical flaws that automatically disqualifies me from a lot of good potential partners. I also have 3 kids from 3 different dads. I’m not interested in spending my life alone and hoarding cats. I’m not this cold in real life, but I’m certainly not a pleasant peach.
Cons: My husband denies me sex, has never seen me naked in over 5 years of marriage despite my complaining/questioning, won’t combine income so I’m only able to access 10% of the total income ($6k out of $60k last year according to our tax filing paperwork), limits my employment opportunities, won’t travel with me, doesn’t touch my body, won’t address issues I bring up, limits the amount of solo-parenting he has to do, makes illogical petty decisions, never added me to his mortgage, won’t add me to his cell phone plan, hid cross dressing from me,l… there’s probably more to add but I can’t think of any atm.
Pros: He pays the mortgage, electric, internet, and water. I get free use of those, he hasn’t imposed a limit. He will unload hay for me when I need to restock for my horses. He always mows the yard. He will hang shelves and pictures for me. He fixes leaking toilets, faucets, etc. He will buy dinner when we eat out 50% of the time. He covers some grocery shopping trips, about 3 per year. He covered 3 months of daycare expenses for our biological child. He uses a portion of his Christmas bonus towards gifts for the kids. He pays my car insurance.
Our income disparity is as follows: Last year, I brought in $6k and change of the total $60k we filed. I only worked part of the year. My total pay out for everything necessary was $15k. The other $7k came from my savings. After taxes, mortgage, water, electric, car insurance, and internet, he has $1,200 left over per month. That total is what I gross per month.
I see good things, and unforgivable things. I know and understand my personal limitations and how that impacts my socially perceived “value” as a life partner.
I have free housing. I have a loveless marriage. I have water and electric. I don’t have any monetary freedom. My car insurance is paid for. My car leaks, needs new brakes, and is very high mileage. I should depend on him to help pick up the slack, but my mom is the one paying for everything I fall short on. Out of $4,300 in daycare expenses, he paid $1,200. I’m grateful he did that. I still had to cover $3k and I only made $6k last year.

I work for a UK based company and I’m one of a handful of employees in North America. This is my second month in the role so I’m fairly new. The company does an annual trip to do some team bonding/brainstorming ect and this year they’ve chosen Spain. Sounds amazing right? Here’s the problem. I’m extremely introverted and very much a homebody and the thought of going on this trip is giving me severe anxiety for a few reasons.

1. Flights. The company wants to be as cost effective as possible so instead of flying straight to Spain, we (the North American team) are flying to the UK a few days before and staying at a coworkers parents house for 2 nights before flying to Spain with the rest of the team.
   
2. Hotel rooms. I’d be sharing a hotel room with someone (obviously) but it would be essentially a total stranger as I haven’t really met any of the other woman on the team because the rest of the North American team are men.
   
3. The whole company is talking about how the trip is gonna be one big party and everyone’s going to be drinking and staying out late maybe going to clubs (we are all fairly young and work in tech). I don’t drink nor do I like going out to bars etc. I’d love a relax beach holiday but it sounds like it’s going to be work and team building during the day and partying all night.
   

There’s a few other reason I don’t want to go but those are the major ones. I don’t know if any introverts out there understand how much this trip sounds like a nightmare but I’m really trying to figure out a way I can politely decline or come up with a believable excuse to not go without seeming like an ungrateful new hire. Worth mentioning also flights are not booked yet but will be soon so I need to say something before they book them.

Hello to everyone, i'm sorry if my english is broken but its not my first language. So, i'm homebrewing my own religion inside my campaign and my goal is to convey the connection between Gods and faith by having domains based on fundamentals desires and needs of living beings. I have found some, but i'd like to reach 15 gods/domains.
The ones i currently have:
Goddess of Love and Fire (affection, social relationships, family, friendship)
Goddess of Life and Nature (survival, hunt, basic biological needs)
Goddess of Death and Transcendence (metaphysic, invisible, spirituality)
God of Success and Fame (ambition, glory, fame, respect)
God of Justice and Law (equality, good and bad, protection)
God of Work and Society (belonging, responsabilities)
God of Freedom and Choice (being free, ect)
God of Knowledge and the Seas (exploration, secrets, close to cthulhu)
Goddess of Beauty and Arts (emotional expression, creativity, immagination)
God of Pleasure and Fun (distractions, tentations, simple happiness)
God of Adventure and Change (taking risks, new things)
Goddess of Dream and Magic (making the impossible possible, the bases of desire, hope)
I know a Pantheon of 15 gods its considered big but each one of them is going to be relevant in the main plotline, so its important that i plan them correctly. They are designed to have both good and bad connotations, just as human nature, so keep that in mind. Thanks in advance to everyone that helps me!