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Jamesville Dewitt School District, New York. A place to shat on your teachers or the school.
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2023.06.06 08:44 chas3 Anyone down to meet up at Outbreak fest?
Is anyone else going to Outbreak solo? Do you want to link up?
I was planning on attending with some friends, but they couldn't fit the overall cost into their yearly budget (travel, accommodation, etc.)
I have an old friend from high school who lives in Manchester, but she's not into the lineup at all lmao.
I'm going for the whole fest. Not edge, but hangovers are starting to hurt so I'm really going for the shows and to hang out.
If anyone's in the same boat or just want to make a new acquaintance, drop a comment and let's plan to hang!
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2023.06.06 08:39 Past_Calligrapher246 I’m a university student being threatened with revenge porn
I’m afraid of him finding this so I’m trying to be discreet while including detail . I met this guy 3 years ago we platonically talked for a while and then I found out he was interested in me I didn’t respond but we hung out one night with his roommate (a girl ) and her bf . We drank and I blacked out that night and in the morning I found out we had had sex . I started remembering the night in the morning and just took that into mind but I didn’t approach him romantically or anything . A little while later I stopped talking to him because I realized he talked more about himself and wasn’t a real friend /wasn’t interested in getting to know me and I am not into surface level friendships . Additionally he had started to creep me out (he first messaged me over Snapchat but when we transitioned to text I saw I had his number in my contacts because an ex and I were previously interested in renting a place from him in an entirely different city and this guy never told me why he moved cities when I later asked him multiple times ), he would FaceTime me constantly text etc . I decided to block him after I initially nicely told him I’m not interested in being friends etc . After that I moved to another city again . He started FaceTiming me from new random emails , texting me from new numbers and calling me . I blocked him and deleted messages from each time . Now 3 years later he texts me using a fake name I say I don’t know who this is he then send a a picture of his dog and I remember the guy from 3 ago and I let him know I want him to stop contacting me and I’m not interested . To which he reveals that one night we hooked up when I had blacked out he recorded us . He tried to say I recorded some angles too but I have severe body dysmorphia and social anxiety hence my lack of any social media and I don’t even take pictures of myself let alone would I even under the influence record something as bad as that . I believe he knows which city I moved to and what university I’m currently going to and I’m afraid he will post the video on the school Reddit page . I’ve emailed my school advisor regarding this but legally where can I go from here ? Can I get a restraining order ? Anything I can do at all would help . I suffer from anxiety and I’m afraid of handling this on my own so I’m asking for help here please . If it’s relevant the state I’m in is California
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2023.06.06 08:39 Freenore Technology aside, basic questions waiting to be answered in Karnataka
In a pivotal election, the people of Karnataka have voted out the BJP government that made communal hate its business. In electing the Congress, the people also appealed for economic relief in their lives. The Congress won its largest vote shares in districts that have felt the greatest economic pain. The new government has promised to honour its five guarantees to financially assist women and the educated unemployed, provide free grain for poor families, and (as is now obligatory) supply free electricity. But this is not nearly enough.
The government’s guarantees are handouts—they are, at best, economic band-aids. Successive Karnataka (and other Indian) governments have largely ignored the essential prerequisites of development: human capital and jobs; and they have allowed the steady decay of the justice system and the environment. Remedying these long-standing deficiencies is necessary so that people can stand on their feet and no longer require handouts.
Unfortunately, India’s prevailing economic development ideology—an ideology pioneered in Karnataka—advocates technological leapfrogging to sell a narrative of progress and handouts to keep the vulnerable beholden. If the Congress government in Karnataka sticks unthinkingly to this ideology, democracy will once again betray the voters. An authoritarian communalism will gain new strength.
One astute commentator has warned that Karnataka’s people have made a “conditional contract” with the Congress. The Congress’ seat majority came at the expense of the implosion of the Janata Dal (Secular). The BJP remains strong, having won more votes in 2023 than in the 2018 election. The stakes are high. Contrary to the popular notion that southern states are clearly superior to northern states, Karnataka’s economic and political indicators closely track Indian averages, as if India’s progressive and destructive forces are locked in battle in the State. What happens next in Karnataka will tell us which force is winning.
Commentators dubbed Bengaluru as “India’s Silicon Valley” in the second half of the 1980s, soon after Texas Instruments established a software facility in the city. India’s inexpensive technological talent was put to work, and the future held endless possibilities.
The big breakthrough came in March 1999 when Infosys Technologies became the first Indian-registered company to trade on the NASDAQ stock exchange. In January 2000, U.S. Treasury Secretary Lawrence Summers visited the plush Infosys headquarters in Bengaluru. And as Jawaharlal Nehru had done for the Bhakra Nangal dam in July 1954, nearly half-a-century later Summers described the glamorous Infosys campus as a “temple of modern India”.
The man who best articulated the technological leapfrogging narrative was Nandan Nilekani, one of the seven co-founders of Infosys. In February 2004, displaying the company’s video teleconferencing capacity across multiple time zones, Nilekani said to the visiting New York Times
journalist Thomas Friedman, “Tom, the playing field is being levelled.” The awestruck Friedman converted that phrase into “The World is Flat”, making that the title of his best-selling book. Friedman’s message was that bright young Indians were poised to take the jobs of techies, radiologists, wire-service reporters, and even executive assistants in advanced nations.
By 2010, Nilekani had turned his gaze to India’s development problems. He invented the Aadhaarcard, which would give a unique identity number to every Indian. In September that year, 10 Adivasis in the Tembli hamlet in Maharashtra received their identification cards from Prime Minister Manmohan Singh and Congress chief Sonia Gandhi in the presence of Nilekani and other dignitaries. The poor would be the greatest beneficiaries of this innovation, Singh said.
Through the now nearly four decades of the leapfrogging promise, India has struggled to advance education and health delivery, a struggle all-too-evident in Karnataka. A true welfare system gives the highest priority to accelerated human development because that gives people more productive opportunities, a greater sense of well-being, and, therefore, reduces their dependence on handouts as band-aids. But politicians and elites cynically promote band-aids as “welfarism”.
To be sure, there has been progress. But the Indian voter’s and the country’s economic future are being savaged by the tyranny of low expectations. In 2020, 27 per cent of women in Karnataka could not pass a simple literacy test. This ratio will diminish over time as the share of a younger population with basic literacy skills increases.
But aside from these low-hanging fruits, the education system is failing the people. The quality of education has stayed stubbornly poor. Between 2006 and 2016, only between 40 and 45 per cent of Class III students in rural Karnataka could read a Class I text; that ratio was at a low 40 per cent in 2018, just before COVID, and fell to 24 per cent in 2020. Only about 20 per cent of children in Class V could do division sums in the years before COVID, and only 12 per cent in 2020. In these metrics, Karnataka has consistently performed below the national average.
For many students, the learning gaps are never filled, and they fall further behind their grade level. Unable to cope, about 25 per cent of Karnataka’s children aged between 15 and 17 stop attending school, which is a little under the Indian average. The vast majority of the rest go unprepared to subpar colleges and thence to the wilderness of unemployment and dead-end jobs.
In health, global improvements in medical technology and pharmaceuticals have been a continuous source of low-hanging fruit, which India’s public health system has absorbed and successfully deployed. But once past that easier task, the gains accrue at a glacial pace. According to the National Family Health Survey, the share of stunted children in Karnataka (those who had low heights for their age) remained virtually unchanged at about 35 per cent between 2015-2016 and 2019-2020. Those numbers almost exactly match the Indian averages. Multiple studies have established that stunted children suffer long-term handicaps in work and life.
The incidence of anaemia among women between 15 and 49 became worse, up in Karnataka from 45 per cent in 2015-2016 to 48 per cent in 2019-2020, about ten percentage points lower than the Indian average in both years. The spread of non-communicable diseases such as diabetes is creating new challenges for the healthcare system and extraordinary out-of-pocket expenses for patients.
The five guarantees from the Congress do little to address such human development failures. They do even less to close the yawning jobs deficit.
The glamour of information technologies often blinds us to the fact that about 45 per cent of India’s and Karnataka’s workforce is deployed in agriculture, up from about 40 per cent just before COVID. People are crowding into agriculture just when farms are becoming ever smaller. In 1970-1971, 30 per cent of the operational holdings in Karnataka were less than one hectare (they were marginal holdings, in official terminology). By 2015-2016, the year of the last agricultural census, 54 per cent of the holdings were marginal. This relentless increase in marginal holdings is matched by a corresponding decline in the share of the larger holdings as demographic pressure leads to generational subdivision of land and bottles up the workforce in low-productivity agriculture, saddled with onerous debts. Those “working” in agriculture are, in truth, sharing work with family members. They are hugely underemployed, spending large chunks of their time without any work. Large and growing numbers of them describe themselves as “unpaid household helpers”. The heavy reliance on land at this time of acute and increasing demographic pressure is a poignant commentary on the bleak jobs outlook in non-agricultural activity.
Outside of agriculture, the most important job-creating activity is construction, where (as casual labour) workers are idle on days they do not get work and when they do work, they toil long hours on pitiful wages and often without safeguards to protect them from injury. The much-touted “service-driven” economy provides low-end jobs in restaurants, trade, and transport. Jobs created by the information-technology and allied sectors are so few that they do not show up as a separate category in the official employment data. To put it starkly, both in the level and pace of increase, IT-related jobs are a tiny fraction of the humble “unpaid household helpers”.
Other than pious promises to create more jobs, political leaders campaigning in the recent elections showed no awareness of the grave jobs deficit. And they had nothing to say about the growing moral crisis.
Wrapped up in bureaucratic ineptitude, corruption, and crime, the justice and water systems in Karnataka, as elsewhere in the country, are slow-moving train wrecks. That looming disaster highlights the moral bankruptcy of the political and intellectual elite. Justice and water are not just crucial to economic well-being, they are bedrocks of civilisation.
The number of “pending” cases in Karnataka district courts has risen relentlessly to 1,95,000 in 2021, up 55 per cent from 2015, a somewhat brisker pace than the 45 per cent increase across India over the same period.
The “undertrials” in prison, those charged with crimes but awaiting trial in jail, have also increased relentlessly, up from 69 per cent of all prisoners in 2015 to 75 per cent in 2021, almost exactly matching the all-India averages. These dry statistics are not just a statement of the aphorism “justice delayed is justice denied”, they are markers of a society that turns a blind eye to human rights abuses.
An equal, if not greater, marker of moral degeneration is the stealing of our children’s inheritance. Rainwater flooded Bengaluru city in October 2005 and then again in September 2022. Chief Ministers have come and gone in the interim but the problem gets more acute as chaotic and corruptly authorized urbanisation fills the city’s tanks, lakes, and rivers, choking off the natural drainage of rainwater. With climate change sure to increase the frequency of heavy rainfall events, flooding in Bengaluru, in other Karnataka cities, and all over India is bound to disrupt lives and livelihoods more often and more severely. The mighty river Cauvery as it flows through Karnataka and Tamil Nadu, in the manner of rivers all over India, is being choked and killed by effluents, construction debris, and, especially, illegal sand mining. One activist has warned that the Cauvery might soon cease to exist.
In April this year, Fareed Zakaria, host of a Sunday morning programme on CNN, visited India, his country of birth. His breath was blown away, most of all by Nandan Nilekani and his “vision” that Aadhaar would catalyse multitudes of jobs. Anything is possible. But in the nearly one-and-a-half decades since Aadhaar’s invention,
the fastest growing occupations have been in construction and in unpaid household labour.
India’s political and intellectual elite push technological solutions to claim progress and dole out handouts as band-aids to pacify voters. This strategy shies away from the hard work of providing education, good health, jobs, working cities, and justice. The lakes and rivers continue to die.
If the new Karnataka government remains seduced by technology and handouts while ducking the basics, democracy would have again betrayed the people. Voters will remain in pain and have reason to walk away from their “conditional contract” with this government. Hindutva’s visceral appeal will attract even more followers. Ashoka Mody is Visiting Professor of International Economic Policy at Princeton University. He previously worked for the World Bank and the International Monetary Fund and is the author of India is Broken: A People Betrayed, Independence to Today (Juggernaut and Stanford University Press, 2023).
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2023.06.06 08:39 lianaalvarao Incredible Things to do in Vegas
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Las Vegas, NV. Just mentioning the name of the community conjures up a pictorial image of dazzling neon lights, top-of-the-line resorts, and the myriad of casinos. Sporting a popular culture of being referred to as Sin City in movies like The Hangover, Las Vegas usually takes on a negative image. For more information on things to do in Vegas
, Nevada's biggest city draws an estimated 36 million visitors per year. The majority of people assume the "party capital of the world" to be Las Vegas, but that's just one small slice of the Mojave Desert's nightlife.
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Popular Attractions in Vegas
1. Neon Museum
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2. Fremont Street Experience
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A visit to Caesars in Las Vegas is a last opportunity to experience the glamor of the old-school casino industry, and few downtown casinos can match it for setting. Take a chance at the tables there to get a few chips on your enormous gaming floor, take a dip in the remarkable Garden of the Gods pool, browse the Forum Shops, see a concert on the Colosseum stage, or just enjoy touring through the spacious halls while preparing for The Hangover. Also check out the Las Vegas Tour Guide
for more information about this incredible city.
4. Dig This
Found a little farther away from the Strip than the Venetian, heavily wooded and open, is a heavy equipment playground where visitors can drive thick Tonka toys. You can choose a Caterpillar D5G bulldozer or a Caterpillar 315CL with an excavator, you can build large mounds and push oversized tanks.
5. Hoover Dam
The Great Depression-era construction that dammed the Colorado River and created Lake Mead, The Hoover Dam looms large in Las Vegas history and 726 feet high is the curving facade's striking aspect from any of the vantage points reported in the guides, boat tours, or flights from Lake Mead. It took nearly 20 years and 18,000 people to build the dam on the Colorado River, and it's definitely worth taking a look at the miles at its end.
6. Park Theater
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7. The Mob Museum
Comprised of one of a former courthouse building's former sections and an amphitheater where part of the Kefauver Hearings took place, this summit narrates stories of organized crime all over the world, and, particularly, in Las Vegas, where the Mafia ran its agenda with the help of law officials. Permanent exhibits feature a vintage electric-chair model, a fragment of the Saint Anthony hairdryer.
Valentine's Day featured a wall covered in Levine's Massacre , as well as a thrilling slot machine in a speakeasy exhibiting all alcoholic beverages. For an extra fee, you may participate in special adventures like the Crime Lab, the App Store Simulation of Firearms or a private tour of the area's diamond engagement ring distillery where you can purchase a glass of champagne.
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When visitors to Las Vegas find out that The Grand Boulevard is actually 40 miles of wilderness situated near a metropolitan area, they're usually quite curious. After all, the city is home to canyons and mountains, which provide the type of hiking Las Vegas visitors enjoy living here. Visit Red Rock Canyon National Conservation Area, where rock walls are lined with athletic hikers along classic trails and crevasse-ridden ravines feet in length lead to breathtaking foothills. Not into hiking? Go on a scenic, 13-mile loop in the park to catch a morning or sunset view of the surroundings without enduring the heat.
9. The Golden Knights at T-Mobile Arena
Las Vegas has been in need of a professional sports team for many years, and the team was welcomed to the city in 2017, fulfilling the locals' longed-for wish for its arrival at that time. A remarkable trend brought by the team's debut was cemented in Las Vegas's hearts, and the tremendous support the team received nationwide and worldwide shows just how popular the group has become. If you live near Las Vegas throughout the NHL season, stop by the Strip-side T-Mobile Arena to catch a game. This is where the black and gold and the halftime show enjoy the game, attracting devoted fans. Outside of the NHL, it is hockey à la Las Vegas.
10. The Venetian Las Vegas
An attractive resort and amusement complex that provides gondola rides and elaborate d cor, the Venetian incorporates St. Mark's Square in its expansive indoor and outdoor models. Inside the central plaza, the scenery has Frommer's around the basin. Relax in deluxe comfort at The Venetian, as it has some of The Strip's largest suites and has numerous pools across a Romanesque garden.
11. The Peppermill
Unless you haven't been to Peppermill, you haven't really been to Las Vegas. The neon front of the Peppermill 24-hour diner pulsates with bright citron paint. It welcomes guests to sit down in velvet booths that are as savory as plates of eggs, hash browns, and piled-high fruit salads. The ending section of the Fireside Lounge is an enclosure that you could go to before or after your meal, and a lovely throwback to the 1970s, a time when disco was popular and disco balls were everywhere. Consume nacho chips and a 64oz Scorpion Bowl by a fire pit so you and your guests can get away from your guests, with the fire crackling just outside.
12. Pinball Hall of Fame
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14. The Bellagio Conservatory
Part of the reason Bellagio Conservatory & Botanical Gardens is such a great place for free outings is that it constantly refreshes its garden and grounds. Piling up vegetation in the 24-hour gardens will present you with an opportunity to check out a spectacular botanical display that includes a stunning combination of plants. It's akin to a miniature Disneyland for plant enthusiasts.
15. High Roller Observation Wheel
This is the largest observation wheel in the world and has one of the most magnificent views of the skyline on the outskirts of it. Take a 360-degree spin 550 feet above the Las Vegas Strip or go for a 4D mix. Do you want to heighten your experience? Book your ride and enable the Happy Half Hour.
16. Mandalay Bay Beach
The National Museum of the Aztecs is a great place to visit in Las Vegas when in the warm sunlight. This center also features the tropical Mandalay Bay Beach, where lively activities will keep the whole family entertained. Three poolside bars are located near three bondways, each of which is lined by seating beach bungalows covered with numerous pillows.
17. Ferraro's Restaurant & Wine Bar
A favorite with local LV natives, Ferraro's Italian Restaurant & Wine Bar has been serving up fine Italian cuisine for over three decades. The establishment honors a southern Italian heritage with unique dishes featuring house-made pasta, high-grade meats and unique produce from private farms. Paired with a stunning wine list to complement your beautiful tastes, your sommelier will tailor your dining experience to your taste. Ferraro s is a fantastic option for you going out.
18. Spa at The Linq
Head to Spa at the Linq before a return trip to Sin City to effectively replenish yourself from distressing experiences from the night before. Make yourself comfortable, choose your own tunes, or even let the spa staff select an ideal fragrance combination for those struggling with pain. The spa-like Himalayan salt cave is the number one tourist attraction here. Features that help ease allergies and congestion are contained here, too.
19. Las Vegas Springs Preserve
The spa-like Himalayan salt cave is the number one tourist attraction here. Features that help ease allergies and congestion are contained here, too. The Springs of Las Vegas are known as the location of the birth of the Nevada urban area. Plenty of things to see and do in the vicinity make it worth visiting for a day. Children, bike rentals, and the Nevada State Museum are especially popular.
20. The Fountains of Bellagio
Tourists to Las Vegas go out of their way to witness the Bellagio signature dancing fountains. The fountains covering several acres are located near the hotel. MUSIC gets the water running every 30 minutes and a few times of day at night. Not just free of cost, this outstanding fountain has been immortalized by the production of Ocean s Eleven.
21. The National Atomic Testing Museum
Bear in mind that throughout the 1950s, a lot of individuals were strolling towards the street until The Strip, still watching their wild mushroom cloud pictures. The history of the development of America's nuclear weapons program is mesmerizing and horrifying. Ironically enough, Las Vegas was where lots of it happened. A visit to this wide collection of uniquely interesting stuff should most definitely be included on your Place To Get Lost list.
2023.06.06 08:38 autotldr Suspension bridge in India collapsed for the second time in 14 months
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NEW YORK - A suspension bridge under construction has collapsed for the second time in 14 months, leaving at least one person missing. Summary Source FAQ Feedback Top keywords: bridge#1 collapsed#2 time#3 suspension#4 reported#5
The incident happened on June 4, when a suspension bridge was being built across the Ganges River in Bhagalpur district of the eastern Indian state of Bihar.
The work has been delayed and delayed for completion many times, including the first time the bridge collapsed on April 30 last year because of heavy rain.
Eight men were on the bridge at the time of the collapse, and one guard was reported missing.
Video by eyewitnesses showed a section of the bridge partially submerged, with only a few pillars and cables sticking out showing the previous location of the collapsed section.
In October last year, a colonial-era suspension bridge in the town of Morbi in the western Indian state of Gujarat collapsed, sending hundreds of people into the Machchhu River below.
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2023.06.06 08:38 LoveMangaBuddy Read Nanatsu No Maken Ga Shihai Suru - Chapter 25 - MangaPuma
Spring. In the prestigious magic school of Kimberly, this year ushers in another wave of new students. Clothed in black robes with a white cane and sword strapped to the hip, within his chest he hides pride and a mission.As the sakura flutter in full bloom, the budding magicians are welcomed by a parade of magic creatures. However, they were allowed only a moment of leisure. An underground labyrin ... Read Nanatsu No Maken Ga Shihai Suru - Chapter 25 - MangaPuma. Read more at https://mangapuma.com/nanatsu-no-maken-ga-shihai-suru/chapter-25
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2023.06.06 08:37 Fun-Needleworker-104 Vent About Ex Abuser
I typically try to avoid talking about him but considering he's continued to make new social media accounts on stuff such as tiktok, instagram, and so on to seemingly keep tabs on me even 3 (nearly 4) years after we separated its hard to just forget. Its like having a constant reminder shoved in my face when I want nothing more than to just forget it all. So I thought maybe talking about it somewhere would help me feel a little better or something. I thought that with time and me getting older (I'm 23 about to be 24 soon) it would heal at least somewhat, but its all continued to plague me. Just a bit of a warning before I get into this entire shit show that took up 6 years of my life this story contains grooming, pedophilia, and some mentions of physical abuse, sexual, emotional and mental manipulation and abuse.
When I was 13 years old I moved in with some friends after a fight with my mom got physical and I got punched in the face. They lived in a duplex and below them lived a 18 year old guy with his family. After about 4 or so months of me living with them me and the 18 year old got close. He'd go on walks with me and listen to me vent about my childhood and everything I had gone through, especially after a family member of mine passed away in front of me. He just listened and provided comfort and support that I never really got growing up. I considered him to be a close friend that I trusted a lot. Over the course of the next few months of us being close friends and hanging out regularly he started getting... testy with me. For a lack of better words. He started seeing how far he could go with me touching wise and progressively got me more and more comfortable with that. Years down the line I also found out from my friend that she had caught him while I was 13 asking me sexual questions in my sleep because I was a major sleep talker and would apparently answer. She didn't say anything at the time because she was my age and didn't really understand it.
A month after I turned 14 and he was 19 is when we went all the way and was the official start of our "relationship". He told me right off the bat we'd have to keep it a secret and I wouldn't be able to tell anyone. I, being a 14 year old girl that grew up in a very strict and abusive household, took everything he said as law. After all he knew everything I had gone through and was the person I trusted the most. I was in "love", but looking back he played my emotions like a fucking fiddle and used my trust and the traumas I disclosed to him to get closer to me and later use against me when I wasn't doing what he wanted.
A few months into us being together the first signs of him being a cheater and abusive popped up, but considering what I grew up seeing it just seemed normal. My mom was in an abusive relationship all throughout my younger years. It was all I really knew of relationships. The first time he showed signs of being a cheater was when we went over to his friends house to play video games and his ex from high school showed up and sat on his lap and practically gave him a lap dance. I expressed my discomfort later on once we were in private and he immediately blew up on me and told me it was nothing and not to worry about it, telling me I was being crazy and jealous. The first time he was physically abusive was when I had snuck into his room to cuddle in the middle of the night since I had a nightmare and I guess my foot was cold because he immediately turned around, punched me 3 or 4 times in my leg and then yanked the blankets away from me and turned away. He didn't even apologize, just went back to sleep and I went back to my room crying.
This sparked this entire thing of him never allowing me to be under the same blanket as him, even years later once I was 18. It would usually result in me getting punched because my hands or feet were cold even if I wasn't even touching him with them. Around this time was also when he started telling me I was getting fat and shaming me into eating less. I was only 5 foot or so and I was around 95 and super skinny to the point my friends had been concerned I had an eating disorder. He started saying this when I gained the littlest bit of pudge on my stomach even though I was just putting on healthy weight.
Later on down the line around the time I was 15 he was house sitting for his parents and decided he wanted to have sex with me. At some point during this I was actively crying and trying to get away, but he just pinned me down and said something along the lines of "where do you think you're going? I'm not done yet." I think at some point I just started to think that sex was supposed to hurt and that it was normal. I also started to realize that he would not really be willing to show me any form of physical affection unless it was sexual, so I started initiating it whenever I wanted some physical affection or just affection in general.
It was that or I'd basically be ignored for video games or whatever he was doing on his electronics. Unfortunately this habit of trying to initiate sex in order to get affection has followed me into my current relationship, even though I know logically all I have to do is ask to cuddle, get a kiss, or hug. There's also the persisting pressure to say yes every time to sex in my current relationship, even though I know that if I were to say I wasn't in the mood he'd respect that. Its like part of me just shuts down at the aspect of it and I don't feel in control anymore. I have been getting somewhat better about this over the course of these past 3 years though.
Any time I brought up any issues or concerns I was having with how he was treating me it was always met with backlash and me being told I was being a crazy bitch. Eventually I just stopped bringing things up and tried my best to just ignore those feelings of something being wrong or discomfort. This went on for 5 years until eventually I couldn't ignore it anymore. For some added context he had been accusing me of cheating on him for about 3 months prior to me finding out about what he was doing. He had convinced his mom and coworkers that I was a cheating psycho bitch that was constantly freaking out at him over random things. (Far from the truth, I was so devoted to him that I would never even imagine cheating on him and I had already given up on bringing up any issues or anything and had given up for the 2 years prior on that since I quickly discovered my feelings would be minimized.) At this point I was 19 and he was letting me play games on his phone (bold move considering what I ended up seeing), a message popped up on the top of the screen from a girl on google hangouts. Here I ended up finding out he had been cheating on me for the entire relationship with various girls online. He had also been trying to get his 15 year old coworker to sleep with him and send him nudes. He was around 24 or 25 at the time. Somehow he had managed to get his coworkers on board for him getting with said 15 year old as well due to all of the stuff he had been saying about me and how he was making his situation sound with me.
Upon being confronted he immediately tried to pin the blame on me and say that it was because I wouldn't give him what he wanted. By that he meant I had been pressured into acting out one of his kinks and had been so uncomfortable with it that I had to stop (it wasn't face to face it was through roleplay text messages. Otherwise I wouldn't have been able to back out of it.) I had had enough so I went for a walk and had decided to end things once I got back. Once I got back I found him sitting on my mom's porch with a knife. First he put the knife to his wrist and said that if I left him he'd kill himself right then and there in front of me. When I tried to move closer in an attempt to talk with him and try to calm him down he put it to his throat.
This is the most vivid experience I can remember of him using my traumas against me. He had done so before, but never to this level. I had confided in him at one point that I never wanted to see someone die in front of me again and that I didn't think I'd ever be able to mentally handle it. Which... he used against me. He used a lot of my traumas against me throughout the 6 years we were together. Whether it had been grabbing me by my face and either yelling in my face or talking through gritted teeth because he knew it would make me start crying, or hitting me in general because it immediately made me freeze up and shut down, or saying cruel things to me that I had told him about from my childhood.
Of course I shut down immediately and started reassuring him that I wasn't going to leave him and to calm down. We stayed together and got engaged, he gave me a promise ring and said that the ring was going to be his promise to never break my trust again. About a year later I'm 20 and we're living with his family and its Christmas. It had been the same routine for that entire last year expect at this point I was bitter and angry, constantly scared he would cheat again considering he had been doing it our entire relationship. Especially after he got close with another female coworker again and started going over to her house every weekend. I tried to say something but was always shot down immediately and accused of being a controlling crazy bitch. Well, on Christmas he suddenly told me that we should take a break. He left the room while I cried and once I had finally stopped crying he came back in and said that actually we should break up. Oh and cherry on top, I had had a miscarriage about a month or two prior to this, which I think the entire pregnancy part of this had played a huge roll in the breakup. I don't really remember much from that night but I do know I went to my mom's house for a few days after that. After this he kept switching back and forth between "I might want to get back together with you someday" to "I don't think we should ever get back together" and also gave me a list of requirements I'd have to complete in order for him to even consider getting back together with me. Once of these requirements was cutting my family off entirely, mainly my mom.
I feel so guilty that I even considered doing this... but looking back I was so dependent on him. I had never planned on anything else in my future except for him. The one time I did try to plan something for my future I had been considering going to college, which he had shot down and said that I didn't stand a chance and that I'd never be able to do it. He was the only thing I had ever planned for future wise. I think the really eye opening moment for me was when he had made me cry again by saying a bunch of fucked up stuff to me, I was on my knees just sobbing and he got a text from our coworker saying she was there to pick him up for the weekend. Without saying a word he stepped over me, turned off the light, and closed the door. I think it was at this point I realized that he didn't care about me at all and that his entire thing of going back and forth saying that there was a chance was just to keep me there as a backup in the case that things went south with her. This was solidified as fact once he started texting me saying he missed me after I moved away and things had gone badly for his new relationship with that coworker. He even vented to me about how he was suicidal and tried to get me to feel bad for him since them being moved in together lasted a total of I think 2 days.
I finally decided I wasn't going to wait for him and I started looking into apartments in my area while starting to talk with my friends again that I had lost contact with over the years since I was so caught up in everything with him or he had mentioned his dislike for (mainly when they pointed out how he was treating me). A few months later I wound up getting in contact with my current boyfriend. We connected pretty much right away and within a few more months I moved in with him. It was a bit of a rocky start I'll admit, mainly due to my own insecurities and traumas, but I've been healing slowly. I feel fine most days now, but there are still times where all of those memories come flooding back to me and I feel like I'm that confused and naïve girl again. I've been diagnosed with PTSD, depression, and anxiety along with an attachment disorder I can't name off the top of my head since all of this happened. Of course some of this stems from my childhood, but at least with my childhood a lot of those memories got suppressed.
I honestly wish he'd stop making new social media accounts. Every single time I get notified that a new one has been made (I have his phone number for this purpose but he doesn't have my new one) it just makes me panic and shut down for a while, thinking he's going to try and contact me again. I block those accounts as soon as I find out about them. Its even worse when its on something like tiktok and I get notified that he checked my account. Full blown sends me spiraling. I ended up being told a year and a half ago that he's with a woman who has two kids. I just hope that one of them isn't a teen girl considering his track record with that. I really don't want anyone else to go through what I went through with him.
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2023.06.06 08:36 Significant_Step6388 I hate myself ! what can i do to stop it.
till i was 13 or 14 i never thought about how i look. I never cared about what other peoples think of me. I was happy i was confident i did not hesitate meeting new peoples and making friends. But after i got in 9th class things started to go downhill. People[both boys and(especially) girls] started saying mean things to me about hw i look about my body structure about my colour[ I have dark complexion] and some of the things that were said to me were extremely painful for me and to this day whenever i thought about those comments i just become depressed[ I AM 22 NOW] . I have faced this colour thing at a very young age of my life. and these things started to hurt me and i started to develop fear ,anxiety, self hatred,. and these things didnt stop after that. people continued to say these things to me and i never stand for myself. what i do in response was to get home and cry .and to this day i cry remembering my past and i am just stuck into my past. and keep telling myself that you are worthless you are ugly you dont deserve anything or anyone in your life no one loves you and no one will ever love you. in my school most of my friends were getting into relationships and becoming teacher favourites. And what i was doing i was watching my friends enjoying their lives[ they are confident and happy] and i was cussing myself. and after that i started to distance myself from my friends family i started to spend most of my time alone. And now i have social anxiety i hate myself i am afraid of people and i dont make any new friends i spend most of my time with myself in my room . i cant talk to people by looking in there eyes because i have no self confidence it always seems like everyone is watching and judging me. i am socialy awkward. i fumble when i am talking to new people. and it doesn't mean that i haven’t tried talking to new people but in the end they always managed to say something mean . . and the problem is with me that why i overthink that much even though i want to change myself but these self hatred anxiety feelings managed to make me crippled . i have some of my friends who are not that good looking but they are confident they love themselves they dont care what the world think of them they are happily living there lives they are financially independent and have relationships enjoying there lives. i want to change my life i want to be happy i want to love myself i want to be confident but i dont know how.
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2023.06.06 08:34 noxrealm slowly giving up
25F, this has been an ongoing issue my entire life. for some reason I've never been able to form a stable, long term connection with anyone, ever. i've been single for 6 years, aside from repeated failed situationships and i've never had a best friend. even the friend group i have now i feel so alienated from, none of them have ever asked me to hang out one-on-one, but they all hang out with each other. i'm always left out of everything and it breaks my heart every time i see instagram stories or something of them together.
i used to put in the effort myself to see them but i feel like i'm almost obligating them to agree to hang out with me by asking, then i spend the entire time in with them worrying that they don't actually want to be there. it doesn't help that when i don't reach out to them, i don't hear from them. i've always been lonely but it's getting so unbearable at this point, this has been happening my whole life (every new city, every new school/job) i don't see anymore reasons to keep trying and this is the most defeated and miserable i've ever felt about the situation.
i genuinely don't know what i'm doing wrong but with always being the common denominator there's no way that there isn't something wrong with me. all i ever wanted is for someone to give me a chance, to prove that i could really matter to someone.
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2023.06.06 08:34 LoveMangaBuddy Read Nanatsu No Maken Ga Shihai Suru - Chapter 25 - MangaPuma
Spring. In the prestigious magic school of Kimberly, this year ushers in another wave of new students. Clothed in black robes with a white cane and sword strapped to the hip, within his chest he hides pride and a mission.As the sakura flutter in full bloom, the budding magicians are welcomed by a parade of magic creatures. However, they were allowed only a moment of leisure. An underground labyrin ... Read Nanatsu No Maken Ga Shihai Suru - Chapter 25 - MangaPuma. Read more at https://mangapuma.com/nanatsu-no-maken-ga-shihai-suru/chapter-25
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2023.06.06 08:33 AbleBird9647 What are the nearest schools and hospitals to Godrej Sector 146 Noida
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is a well-known real estate developer in India, and they have launched a luxury residential project in Sector 146, Noida. The project offers 3 and 4 BHK apartments with modern amenities and facilities.
Godrej Properties has launched a luxury residential project in Sector 146, Noida, which offers 3 and 4 BHK apartments with modern amenities and facilities. The project is spread over a large area and is designed to provide a comfortable and luxurious lifestyle to its residents.
Some of the key features of the Godrej Sector 146 Noida
Spacious apartments with modern architecture and design.
Air-conditioned apartments with modular kitchens and high-quality fittings.
Landscaped gardens, jogging tracks, and sports facilities.
Clubhouse with swimming pool, gym, and other recreational facilities.
24/7 security and power backup.
Proximity to major schools, hospitals, and commercial centers in Noida.
Well-connected to other parts of the NCR region through the Noida Expressway.
The project is being developed by Godrej Properties, which is a well-known and reputed real estate developer in India. They have a track record of delivering high-quality projects and providing excellent customer service.
However, as with any real estate investment, it is important to conduct thorough research and due diligence before making a decision. You should consider factors such as pricing, location, amenities, reputation of the developer, and future potential before investing in the project.
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2023.06.06 08:33 MojoMaster1997 My Law School Journey so far
I never thought about this....I never thought I would reach this point. This week is our finals in Law School, and after this, I am officially entering ny 3rd year in law school (albeit having backlogs for some 2nd year subjects).
Tbh, I was not sure if I really wanted this, like, I started this journey with doubts in my head. I know its hard in law school, given that I am also a working student, but I decided to just "Fuck it, let's just get this fucking done". I've met new friends, learned new things and the world of lawyering, able to juggle both work and having a relationship with my girlfriend (who as always is very supportive of me despite of my schedule).
Part of me wants to quit, I ask myself, "Why the fuck am I still here? Why do I need to make things hard, I have work, I earn money enough to buy all the things I want" still, I find myself pushing down this path, after all, my motivation stemmed from my altruism. I will do the right thing regardless if someone will return the favor or not, it does not matter to me, what matters is that I did the right thing and helped others.
Well.....to two or three years more of sleepless nights and constant struggle to memorize cases. Maybe in the end, this will all be worth it.
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2023.06.06 08:30 Bedhare What is my best option/path?
I am 3 weeks into the A to Z program and I am enjoying it! To say I'm enjoying anything lately is pretty amazing. But i'm starting to think I can make stenography a career. The unfortunate part is that I live in Vancouver and the closest schooling is NAIT (in Alberta). With my current life situation I would love to do it online and preferably sooner than later. I'll be candid and just say im battling a lot of depression and anxiety. The steno machine is an amazing distraction right now. Almost meditative. So i'm wondering what my best options are in terms of schooling. Should i do online? What are the best online programs? Will doing an online program lessen my chances of getting hired? These are probably dumb questions but i am still very new to stenography. Thank you for your help.
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2023.06.06 08:27 Ok-Reception5327 AITA for yelling at husband for driving with our kids?
Disclaimer- my husband used to have a drug problem. I never used any drugs, never really drank alcohol and sure as hell never smoked pot so I had no clue until it got bad. We’ve been together since high school. We never did anything bad but after our second was born he broke his hand and they gave him opioids and he liked them a little too much.
My husband and I are 28. 2 years ago, he was with our kids at the height of his problem and picked them up from school and took them for ice cream. While they were eating ice cream he decided to go into the bathroom and have some pills. He drove them home under the influence.
He came home and kept kissing me and grabbing on me and smacking my behind and laughing and by then I was able to figure out when he was high.
It’s not like he drives an old Honda- it was a Brand new BMW M3. It’s a freaking race car. He could have easily killed all of them, taking away the 3 people I love more than anything in this world and that would easily ruin my life.
He understands now, because we are now 28 and he is almost 2 years clean. I’ve made it very clear that even though he’s clean, and we now have a 100% sober home, I still don’t feel comfortable with him driving with the kids.
Well today he did. I was getting my nails done and he took them to lunch without even telling me. He drove them obviously. IM FREAKING LIVID. I can’t beleive he did that, knowing it’s still not ok with me.
He says he’s been clean and I’m totally over reacting, and that he knows that that’s the worst mistake of his entire life, but I still don’t feel on with him driving them.
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2023.06.06 08:23 TheCreator897 How to deal with shame/dread when learning to drive?
New driver here, trying to get my license asap for an apprenticeship I'm on a waitlist for, but my driving experience has sucked. The people who've taught me to drive don't live in the same household as me, so schedules to practice are very inconsistent. I end up having weeks in between lessons which I think is seriously screwing me up. I'm going to start pushing for weekly lessons, but just thinking about driving I feel super ashamed and awful, like that feeling of ruining something and waiting for when you have to inevitably explain it to your parents.
Most of my driving experiences have been bad. I've yet to crash, but I've hit curbs, nearly scraped other vehicles, been honked at, yelled at, berated multiple days in a row (thanks driving school), you name it. I just don't feel confident, and often when I make mistakes I just get yelled at in the moment and never get an explanation of what I did. It doesn't help that my current teacher is dramatic in general.
I've been told multiple times I'm trying to control the car too much, but at no point have I been given guidance on how to not do that. It really feels like I'm repeating the same bad experience each time I drive. I make the same mistakes each time, but never get advice how to fix them, or designated practice to work on those particular mistakes.
I actually quite hate driving. Everytime I think about having a lesson my stomach hurts. I'm only learning because it's required for my future career, but often I feel too preoccupied with not crashing to actually learn.
I guess I'm wondering how do I put these feelings aside and actually get better at driving? I'm just ready to get my license over with, but driving school was really traumatic and since then (January of this year) I've felt quite bad about myself when I think about driving.
Any advice on how to get in the right mental headspace would be greatly appreciated, since I seriously doubt I'm gonna make any progress at this rate.
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2023.06.06 08:23 tkpiou The Story Of How I Built My Successful GC Company by The Age of 26
This gonna be a long one but I figured id share my story after lurking here for a while to let everyone know that making good money, creating independence, and enjoying your business can all happen in a short amount of time!
I was a young lad back at the age of 17 trying to figure out what i was going to do with my life. I was barely getting through school, was more interested in working and making money. I was on a program where my senior year i only attended school 3 days a week and only went until 12:00pm. This gave me the opportunity to go work my awful part time jobs at car washes and car dealerships detailing cars. It was at this time i thought i could start a little side gig selling mobile detail service in my neighborhood. It took off and i started really getting client and making some money but nothing that would justify full time work when i graduated. I also did not really enjoy the work. I was always good with my hands, i worked on my own cars, built my own ramps and what not when i rode BMX bikes growing up and walls always able to create and see drawings in my head for assembly and put them to paper. I was set to graduate halfway through my senior year so i could start working.
My Father has been in the commercial glazing industry for his entire life, at the time of my graduation he had been at a very large midwest privately owned commercial glazing company as a project manager. He hesitantly despite knowing about my pot smoking and partying habits got my foot in the door and got me an interview and a job in the fabrication shop fabricating the glazing systems to go out into the field for install. I started out as the low guy on the pole just freshly turning 18, getting put with the grumpy ass old men to assemble frames and caulk all of the system dams for water control. I hated it. After about 2 months i got the opportunity to run the fabrication and assembly for a small commercial storefront project with 2 helpers in the shop. This meant i got all of the cut specifications, field an assembly drawings, and details. I essentially had to start with raw full length stock materials and cut, layout and install the clips and brackets, build the frames, caulk and weap, pack and ship the project. This is when i realized that i could actually do something with this because by this time i had essentially learned the ins and outs of every commercial glazing system on my own in my freetime from product manuals so i could at least set myself apart from the other guys in the shop. I finished the fab job 2 weeks ahead of schedule without any mistakes that had to be corrected in the field. I worked in the shop for another 2 weeks and the operations manager decided i should go to the field to learn the installation process since i had progressed quickly.
I started in the field the same way i did in the shop, they where testing me to see if i could handle the vulgar, raw, and miserable world of commercial construction field work. I spent 3 months on a large curtainwall and storefront installation project. I started by caulking dams on curtain wall that had to be stick built in the field. I then go promoted to setting glass and running oil covered vinyl all day to hold the glass into the system. They then bumped me up i got to sit in a boom lift all day and caulk ssg glazing systems. I at this point met a girl in a the state i was from on vacation and because things weren't going well at home and i kind of hated what i was doing i decided to move there.
I moved to this new state and secured a position at a company that built and installed their own residential and commercial glazing systems. Conservatories, folding glass walls, skylights, and more. The position i took was a field laborer traveling to install conservatoires throughout the northeast. I started with a crew of roughneck guys and quickly found my pace and was learning the system quickly, managing my tasks on my own, and the big thing was i became the go to guy for layout with the foreman. I really enjoyed layout and was damn good at it. After 7 months traveling i didn't like being on the road and by coincidence got a call when i was in Maine that next week from the management team that they wanted to bring me into their massive fabrication and manufacturing facility to better learn the system and the preparation process for everything before it got to the installers.
I went home and started working in the assembly department, essentially all of the parts for the structures where cut, pre drilled and prepped and the assembly team built the structures in the facility to ensure everything was going to work in the field. this really gave me the full up and up on the entire process of the system they produced and used. After 2 months i was brought in and offered a position in estimating.
I joined the estimating team and spent 6 weeks learning every in and out of their entire product lineup, pricing structure, how to assemble professional estimates and proposals and i learned intermediate level AutoCAD drafting. I essentially would get a project on my desk and draw the structure as it was to be built in cad then used the drawings to create my takeoff and bid the job. i did this for 6 months before i realized how awful the management, staff, turnover, and moral was within this organization. I made the dumbest move i could have ever made and left a job paying 70k a year to an uneducated almost 20 year old with no other employment lined up.
i did end up securing a position as a senior pm at another small commercial glazing company that set me up for failure by allowing their estimator to underbid every large project but ridiculous amounts of money before i arrived without anyone noticing. so every job that cam across my desk was a disaster from the get go. I spent 9 months putting out fires, managing gc relationships that where toxic due to the position i was put in etc. But i did learn critical project management procedures and how to deal with emergencies on the fly and client management in tough scenarios.
Fast forward a bit and i moved back to my old state with said girl and take a job at a failing commercial glass company as a field/shop
laborer and stayed for 3 months. I Left and took an opportunity to try residential glazing by installing custom glass shower doors, i ran my own truck did 3 installs a day with a helper and did this for 9 months. I had an opportunity come up to work with one of those 1 day bath install companies that advertise religiously. I had just built my first home, my fiance was unemployed and i needed more cash badly.
I met with their operations manager and it was all layed out that i would be an employee but only would be payed a percentage of the cost of the sold job for the bathroom upon completion of install. I essentially had all control in my hands to make as much or as little as i wanted but it was all up to me. Despite the lack of a safety net i took the risk and accepted the offer. i trained with another installer for 2 weeks and set out on my own. Typically these companies sell these jobs for 8-11k depending on the exact scope and accessories. 2 man teams where typically doing a job in 12 hours or basically a day in a half and the jobs where all over the state. I thought there had to be a more efficient way to do it because i got 10% of the job sold price as my pay. by the time i paid for a helper, my fuel, and what not 800-1100 in 2-3 days wasn't enough. I let my helped go and decided i was going to do it on my own. After spending weeks trying new methods to get faster and create a better product i was doing install on my own in 8-10 hours and clearing 3-4k a week gross before taxes and fuel expenses. I was hungry to be successful and finally make good money. This continued for about 5 months until they hit a sales dead period and there wasn't enough work to keep all 4 install crews busy but maybe 1 job a week and i approached my operations manager about another opportunity in the company. Patio conversions
Essentially this was a window and door, bath, and conversion company. These conversions consisted of taking existing covered porches and patios and turning them into 3 season or 4 season rooms. so you got the whole package. layout, framing, insulation, windows and doors, electrical, hvac, and interior and exterior finishes. these job paid big. on average a job takes 5-10 days and pays out 8-16k dollars to the installer. of course i had a couple helpers but i was absolutely crushing it after only a couple of months. This is where i really started to learn the ins and outs of commercial construction.
One day i was approached on a Facebook page about a gentleman with a residential remodeling company near me that was looking for an operations manager. they specialized in high end luxury remodels and also made their own cabinets. I met with him and decided even though the operation seemed small and mismanaged i could make it work. I took a pay decrease so i could work less hours and be home more as my fiancé had just had our daughter and the other company didn't even let me off to go to the appointments.
What i didn't know was that the owner of this business was the slimiest most Narcisitic, ego fueled person i have ever met in my entire life. He was running a GC business with the expectation that every sub, employee, etc was going to be a LEGEND and create only the most perfect unmatched quality product when given low Quality materials, piss poor planning, awful schedules and communication, etc. I quickly learned that i was going to be burned if i didn't think of something quick because the castle was under siege and i saw what was coming. i am 21 at this time. Well inevitably the following week i as an operations manager trying to keep a sinking ship afloat and out in the field tearing up tile from an under slab plumbing leak from before i was at this place, trying to rebuild an entire kitchen in 3 days by myself and i just was over it. Told him that i was putting in my notice and was done. I get called into the office that Friday and was told i was being let go, i was given a personal check for my weekly salary of 1000 dollars and made to sign a non compete and hold harmless agreement if i wanted my pay. i was paid as a 1099 under the table so he wasn't responsible for costs associated with employees. Basically i set myself up to get screwed. i signed everything took my check and left. Check bounces, im broke, he wont pay and im jobless with a fiance and a 6 month old. This was the lowest i had ever felt in my life and i literally was about to loose everything.
It was at this time my wheels started turning and i realized that all of these residential companies i worked for had multiple things in common. The client communication was terrible, their execution was terrible, and their image was awful. They looked all shiny and great during the sales process but as soon as they had a contract and a check the client experience didn't matter. So i thought to myself, i know construction now, i now a fair amount project management and business operations, and i see a hole in the market. so i started my company with the little money i had left. i registered with the state, bought a logo from someone on fivver, made a facebook page, a wix website, and started marketing.
This was great but it takes time to pickup traction and get jobs, i wasn't going to make money being a handyman so i needed supplemental income with flexibility in my schedule. I connected with a local fence contractor who was small and needed and installer who got paid by the linear for building fences. The money was decent but the work was hard and labor intensive. But it gave me a chance to hire a couple guys and teach them how to do it so i could start jobs and leave the jobsites to run estimates for my company. After many free estimates and 1:00 am mornings in the office writing quotes i just wasnt getting the jobs i needed. I needed a way to make sure someone wasn't tire kicking before i spent time and money doing a free estimate. So i started charging $200.00 for an in home consultation and bid package which would be credited to the client in full if they used us for the project. This was not well received due to me not being able to present it correctly in the pitch over the phone but when i did holy shit it worked like a charm. my conversion rate on estimates went form 16% to over 65% in a matter on 3 months.
I started getting good big jobs in good neighborhoods, i started finding really great subs and built my list. I started building brand image, internal documents, repeatable procedures for every job etc. this went on for a year and a half and i finally made 85k take home my first full year in business. Then the covid thing happened.
I thought everyone is freaked out and doesn't want us in their homes for estimates etc. how do i difference myself and create a luxury experience for clients without being intrusive during the lockdowns. i had started modeling basic things in SketchUp and new there was a lot of opportunity in 3d rendering. so i shifted our model and we became a design build firm. So essentially we are selling a design and rendering package to clients with a bid so that they can see what their project would look like before we ever go under contract. The rendering sells the job no matter the cost as long as you have the correct client base and are pre qualifying well.
I had a friend i grew up with that had gotten an architecture degree and was doing SketchUp 3D modeling, renderings, and 2D architectural drawing sets for a shed company as a freelancer and we can up with pricing and decided i was going to pursue this model. So i learned how to be a sales wizard and started selling $1,500-$5,000 design packages over the phone before i ever stepped foot in someones home. we designed and went through the process and send them a price. if they use us they get a full credit applied to the job for the amount of the design if not they own the drawings and information. I was making 50% GP on designs for jobs that never sold just to go out and measure and spend some time going through it with my designer. Our close rate on paid design bids sent went to 86%. This was the end of year 2 going into year 3
Year 2 Gross Revenue was $364k
Year 3 Gross Revenue was $597K
This is all on my own using subs, no in house staff, off the shelf management software, no paid marketing. Just Facebook groups, referrals, and subs.
In June of Year 3 I streamlined my process. I farmed out all business management (bookkeeping, Payroll, Phones, Etc.) and created a concrete repeatable process and procedure system that would be used on every job to ensure consistent management and quality. I hired a project manager and got him trained to manage all of the subs and all aspects related to the field and installations.
I am Proud to say that at June 1 of 2023 at 26 years old with only one Employee we have contracted and collected deposits on $848,000.00 worth of work, our schedule is booked until the middle of September and we are on track to hit just over 1.1 mil in total revenue at an average gross profit of 47%.
I have no formal training in business management, project management or anything to get me to this point. i have spent countless hours researching, reading, failing, and fixing everything in my business. its a cut throat game but if your willing to work your ass off and never quit, do amazing work, and make sure you prioritize client experience start to finish you will have people waiting years for you to do their job.
We are booked through April of 2024 for outdoor projects. Find a hole in the industry in your service area and take full advantage and change the remodeling or building game so us contractors can be looked at as professionals who have earned our ability to enjoy what we have worked for instead of drunk hacks in a shitty pickup.
Thanks for listening to my Ted Talk, get to work!
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2023.06.06 08:21 No_Clock_3998lol Bili ng appliances
Hi, pag bumili ako halimbawa sa physical store (e.g Abenson) jg appliances (1 Ref, 1 Ac), ilang days bago ma deliver?
Ask ko na din of ano mas maganda, order ng appliances online or sa physical store.
I'm new to this po kasi mag ssolo na ako this school year sa dorm.
Yung friend ko lang din makakasama ko sq pag ayos since hassle pa id bbyahe family ko may negosyo din kami kaya mahirap iwanan muna for now.
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2023.06.06 08:13 Gamespice- Can I file for unemployment?
I was a full-time substitute teacher, and my job recently ended. I applied for a summer school position but was not selected. I also applied for another school program, and initially, they informed me that I would be given the job. However, at the last minute, they changed their decision and stated that the position would only be offered to teachers within the district. This caused me to reject lower paying offers for summer school programs. Now, I find myself with no job prospects. I have been applying for jobs, but it seems that no one wants to hire me since I will only be available for two months and all summer school positions are filled. Can I file for unemployment? I will be working at a private school in August as a teacher and already have my return-to-work date.
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2023.06.06 08:12 Cheebz123 I bought a house and have a loveless relationship
I don't know why I'm writing this but I am just sad and discouraged from another argument with my girlfriend. I'm probably more confused than your average poster. I haven't had any love or intimacy with her in four years out of the five we've been together. I just jerk off occaisionally. She's overweight and frequently sick with period pain, persistent cough, foot pain, back pain, poor sleep, just some thing all the time. She constantly buys weird stuff to "help" but it's all hoodoo stuff like collagen and adaptogen crap.
Sometimes we joke and make each other happy.
But other times she just plays mind games with me and makes me feel like things are my fault and I just feel like "I gotta do better" or something but it's just nothingness she just doesn't appreciate me.
I am the breadwinner, a remote worker, a coder. I get paid decently. I give her space to do whatever but she stays at home and plays mobile games constantly. She blames me for not getting a life because "I don't like where we live" so she "didn't apply for school". I dunno.
I do most of the house chores like dishes and even most cooking lately and of course buy the take out. We rarely.go out anywhere. She does some chores too but never dishes. she just wastes time getting so much thrift store stuff. We have too much stuff. Maybe we don't talk about our problems. Conflict avoidant
So anyways, her friend is having a baby on the other side of the country. My gf says she wants to be there for it. So, we decide to move. it's a big fuckin move but hey I'm a remote worker and can just do it so ok. I like this friend they have a great house and living setup too, so could be a cool new life.
But my gf didn't want to rent in this new town so I literally have now bought us a house, and I borrowed money from my parents so we could make an all cash offer because she told me to do this. I guess better than paying the bank but now I'm the bastard that everyone justifiably hates that buys in cash and I'm a spoiled brat.
Even though I had a good amount of money saved (150k), I used 60k for down and am now indebted 300k to my parents. And the rest of my savings will go to the house I guess.
But wow. This new house, I dunno if it's really what I want but now I have it. It's in a hoity-toity neighborhood. It needs a lot of work. I dunno if I'll ever feel comfortable there.
And throughout this whole thing my brother who is just a little younger than me is having a meltdown. He lives at my parents house and they are putting pressure on him to move out but he's really struggling and calls me screaming and crying about how bad his life is.
I could possibly have my brother move into the new house with me but I don't want to enable him...he's very much self medicating with weed and alcohol and I don't like to get into confrontations cause he's so unstable.
If anyone has advice lemme know but really this is just my life. I wanna stop fighting with my gf and for her to get healthy and for my brother to pick himself up and move out the parents house but it's up to them at the end of the day
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2023.06.06 08:05 Pipexreview Red flag or give benefit of doubt?
Not sure how to manage this one. We hired a new senior manager who was meant to start a week ago. We hired the person through a consultant. They said the person accepted the role and was eager and excited to start asap especially as they needed the money.
We sent an official job offer letter via email and never heard back. 3 days later I sent a text message also but I never received a reply. I contacted the consultant and they said they would call them. They came back later that day and said they also had been trying to contact them but never got a reply.
Then later the same day the consultant phoned me saying they had been in contact and the person apologised for not replying to my email or text. They are very excited to start the next week but they had family issues (family member ill) and had to be with them and signal was bad at the location.
The new hired then phoned me after a few hours, to explain. They said nothing of family member being ill. they just said they were excited and sorry for this lack of communication and that it doesn’t look good but that they were excited. They then went on to say that they didn’t realise it was their kids school holiday next week and was it ok for them to leave early during the week. They felt bad that their kids had to be put into a school holiday club and they are starting a new job. I said look kids are important if they wanted to spend time with them we can delay starting for another week. They were very happy and accepted.
Now the next week arrives and I’m expecting them to arrive. 30mins before they were meant to start I received an email from the consultant saying that they had spoken to the new manager and they have a family emergency with family member critically ill. And they will call me to explain but still they are very excited to start.
I never received any text message or call.
Now of course the consultant is very eager for them to start as they get the finders fee.
I’m just starting to see this as all red flags, especially with the lack of communication with me directly from this senior manager.
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2023.06.06 08:02 PsycoNawt 19f girlfriend wants me 20m to keep buying everything for her. But she is pregnant and doesn’t work.
Hello everyone I am in a very confused state right now.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 10 months now, we met in high school, and it went really well, this is our second time trying again. We stopped dating the first time simply due to long distance.
A little bit of background on me when we first got together. I had a very high paying job. Steady income, planning to go to college and get a degree in pharmacology. I was making about $2000 every two weeks. And for being 20 I think that’s a pretty decent income. I’d like to play chess smoke cigars and read and do my own hobbies. I would typically spend about $80 on cigars every two weeks because that is some thing I enjoyed and as for hobbies I would typically spend no more than $150 every two weeks. I was very frugal with my money I didn’t buy clothes and the majority of my money went to living expenses like bills and such. So I would be left with about $350-$400. I would save this income and invest into the stock market. So I always had savings, and that’s some thing I would pride myself in.
This all seem to change once me and her got into the relationship, she was always mad that I worked long hours and I couldn’t stay and be with her as much as she’d like. And like an idiot, I quit my job to work where she worked. And this was good until it wasn’t.
She was always trying to attach everything that I did to her. She wanted me to be where she was and she wanted me to constantly be around her and doing everything for her constantly showing her and only her attention she didn’t let me talk to other people, and if I looked at someone, she would ask me a bunch of questions about it. ( For example: a boss at the job we worked at came up to me and started giving me things to do at work. As a boss should. And I was always taught to be respectful and give eye contact and pay attention to your boss. And of course our boss was a woman.)
After this. She quit her job. But never got a new one. Still to this day I’m the only one who works.
My girlfriend started blowing up asking why I was “staring in her eyes” and I said “because she was telling me a job to do” and then she started crying and screaming saying how she couldn’t trust me and how I’m just like everyone else and she screamed and then ignored me.
I would tell her that I did not like this, and that we would have to end the relationship.
She told me she would change, and of course, like an idiot again I believed her.
Fast forward a month or two she starts becoming very abusive to me, like throwing things at me, she punched me, threw a plate at my back, and it broke. And like a dumb ass I stayed because she would always promise she would change.
Of course, she never did.
By this time, I was ready to end the relationship but I was so convinced she would “change”. So I continued to put up with it. She just kept getting worse. She started to block me and unblock me, she would gaslight me, and just randomly start ignoring me if I didn’t do what she said. This made me feel really bad. I told her about it and she said she was sorry and all this stuff and how she loves me but she is just crazy and everything. But I stayed. SMH.
I started to lose myself. I became so caught up in pleasing her because if I didn’t she would throw things at me. Break my stuff and call me names and just be evil.
I started to forget how important myself was. I started to believe I “NEEDED” her to be happy because when I did what she said then she wouldn’t be mad and then I felt that as a “now I can finally do the things I want” and then she’d get mad when I would have some alone time.”
She would tell me that if I didn’t do things for her that I was a bum who doesn’t treat girls right and all these things.
I started to do everything in my power to make sure she could get what she wanted. I spent up all my savings because she always wanted to go out to eat and spend 50-80 dollars on food and when I said no she would literally throw a fit. Screaming. Grabbing the wheel while I’m driving. She even jumped out of the car because I didn’t want to buy her McDonald’s. And get her coffee.
Well, now she is pregnant. Of course by me, she got jealous because someone told her that I didn’t pull out with somebody else and she was jealous and wanted to feel special and better than the other woman. Mind you despite all of these rude acts. I still called her beautiful. I still would make sure she felt the best because I thought I loved her.
And ofc I didn’t pull out. And she got pregnant.
Now she expects me to pay everything for her and she “shouldn’t have to work because she is pregnant.” Mind you. She is 4 months pregnant, hangs out with her friends, takes her dogs out, take showers and gets ready for the day. Perfectly fine. The only thing she complains about is pain. Common pregnancy pain.
She just never wants to work. And now she calls me a bum dad and a terrible boyfriend. I have done nothing, but be there for her, even whenever she was hurting me physically, emotionally and mentally. I payed for everything. She doesn’t take care of herself. And now it’s my fault?
she is stuck on this narrative that I am such a bad man, so she has ignored me for the past week. With little messages here and there. And still. No job. But she sure as hell can go hang out with her friends and party. (Only reason I know is because her Snapchat). It just doesn’t make sense. I’m confused and scared she will frame me or something.
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