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The Little Mermaid (review) (perspective of a 19 year old young man)
2023.06.01 00:50 T-LJ2 The Little Mermaid (review) (perspective of a 19 year old young man)
The Little Mermaid was beautiful with great visuals, performances and a good pleasant overall message.
The performances from everyone were all around good, but the stand out is Ariels actress Halle.
Halle Bailey's performance brings whimsical naivety and beauty to the front and centre, her singing was beautiful and the best part of the entire film in my opinion, the design of the underwater scenes while weird and a bit dodgy weren't as bad as I thought they were going to be.
I was sucked into the world and the characters. The only distractions were awkwafinas character rap song which had two zoom in shots, and some lyrics which couldn't have even existed yet because of the time period that it's clearly set in. It's not funny when you mix films with this sort of lyrics because they don't work.
Stage shows are different because it works there and satirical shows like that work as well, which is why Hamilton as a theatre musical works so well in that environment. But in my opinion it wouldn't not as a movie set in that time period, especially with trite such as The Greatest Showman aka THE GREATEST SHITSHOW and unless the musical was a fantasy about a real famous artist, then I'd let that pass.
No I prefer musicals like The Little Mermaid to have a similar sound to that of The Phantom of the Opera, which while obviously uses 80s synth in some moments, they use it cleverly and briefly and isn't an Autotuned mess like The Greatest Shitshow.
Melissa Macarthy was awesome and quite funny as Ursla, I felt her performance was enjoyable throughout the film and she brings Ursla to life very well.
The CGI for the most part is fine as I said, a bit rough around the edges and they could've spent a little bit more time refining them, but it doesn't really matter, just a nitpick.
The nightime scenes are great, but a fucking brilliant example of how not to colour grade, the contrast is too dark I can barely see what's going on and the whole thing looks like a blob at the end, especially with the climatic battle which is dreadfully contrasted. What stopped it from being bad was the great and fun performances and the fact that I was engrossed with the film overall.
Generally the film was a fun time I'd recommend it, I'm glad that I gave it a chance!
The trailers and advertising for this film were fucking awful, genuinely just awful. Luckily however, the film was no were near as bad as how it was presented in the trailers and thank god for that.
Entertainment rating: 9/10 Critical rating 7/10
My actual rating for this film is 7/10, but I'm giving it a 9/10 on IMDB to combat the nasty racists who dislike the film for wrong reasons.
Thank you for your time, reading my review.
Jamie - T-LJ2
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2023.06.01 00:44 boxler3 Add-on coupons after purchase?
I just reserved a new 2024 Subaru Outback (so excited!). I want to get a few things added to the vehicle (i.e. seat back protectors, trailer hitch, wireless phone charger). The salesperson mentioned that after I buy a vehicle, Subaru will typically send you coupons in the mail to purchase things like that. Has anyone received these? How much do the coupons take off?
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2023.06.01 00:18 rythica Weight in slide-out?
| Afternoon! I've been living in travel trailers for the past few years, still learning definitely. I wanted to ask everybody about how much weight one can put in a slide-out. I've got a 2016 Keystone Hideout 27DBS, here's the floorplan. I've reorganized the slide-out a few times now. Right now I've got one of the benches from the dinette, most of an ikea KIVEK couch, a short 1'x1' bookshelf, a small "breakfast table" (table with stools that fit underneath), and a few random stored things in the slide. I've had issues with my slide before, but had repairs done to correct those problems. There's also three of us in this place (we're all under 150lbs) and we like to all lounge in the slide. Currently I keep two small manual stabilizer jacks under the slide for minimal support because I'm always anxious that I've got too much weight in the slide. But I figured I should ask everybody their thoughts since I can't ever seem to find a concrete answer online : How much weight can I safely put in my slide-out? TL;DR I've got personal furniture in my slideout instead of the original built-in stuff, but I'm worried about the weight. How much weight can a slide-out take? submitted by rythica to traveltrailers [link] [comments] |
2023.06.01 00:03 Altruistic-Ad749 For Edge makeover for my mom!
Want to get a complete makeover to my mom’s 2012 Ford Edge as a surprise! Basically get the leather seats completely retouched (pretty bad state), the complete interior polished, remove dents & scratches. Make the car look brand new. There are many places on Google but which is a trustworthy and affordable place to get this done?
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2023.05.31 23:59 Altruistic-Ad749 Want to get a complete makeover to my mom’s 2012 Ford Edge as a surprise! Basically get the leather completely retouched, the complete interior polished, remove dents & scratches. Make the car look new. There are many places on Google but which is a trustworthy and affordable place to get this done?
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2023.05.31 23:50 CFharret Which movie has rightfully been given a 90%+ rating by Rotten Tomatoes?
So I watched Miss Stevens (2016) the other day, and loved it! It has a 91% rating on Rotten Tomatoes and I believe it deserves it.
So are there any other hidden gems out there that have a high RT score and deserve it? Extra points if it is Indie. I also love CODA, Lady Bird, and Edge of Seventeen. I saw Real Steel a few days ago and cried for some reason. Also love Ford v Ferrari.
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2023.05.31 23:48 MzFlux Maiden camping adventure
| I bought my 4Runner primarily as a family camping vehicle that could also serve as a daily driver. This weekend, I took it out on its first voyage! We hitched the trailer in the middle of Texas Hill Country, and stayed about 150 miles away on the other side of Austin. It’s a 3800 lb trailer with a good quality weight distribution and anti-sway hitch. It did what I needed it to do! On hills, my RPMs averaged only about 500 more than normal (peaked at about 1000 more RPMs on the steepest hills). On flat land staying around 65 mph, I couldn’t even feel it. I think I’m going to get a transmission cooler installed, though, because Texas gets HOT! submitted by MzFlux to 4Runner [link] [comments] |
2023.05.31 23:08 redmann77 My experience with Pixel 7 and the dilemma
Hello all. I was a hardcore android fanboy in 2009 and was on androids from the start. Often I used Samsung devices with Cyanogen mod rams after rooting, and I recall that mostly I rooted on day one after buying a device to test various roms. Then life happened, got busy with kids and the family all used iPhones so I moved over to iPhone 6s in 2016 or so. Then X's and now iPhone 13.
Tried Sony Experia and pixel 4a but ended up staying with iPhones
Got really excited with Pixel 7 and bought on a whim and have been impressed by speed, flexibility and smartness of Google assistant over Siri on iPhone 13.
However, have similar feel as I had with Cyanogen a decade ago on S5.
My main struggle has been ending up doing uninteded actions, chrome feeling even less refined than edge (I use chrome as main browser on windows 11 on pc) or safari.
My social media usage is Reddit and YouTube and had text display issue on Reddit where font is too small and I increased the size of system font size option and tried other apps like infinity but how come Reddit app does not allow you to change font size like it does on iPhone.
For me Calendar and outlook experience appears worse than iPhone Texting feels smarter with scheduling support and reminders but appear monotonous. Tried chomp and textra apps with mixed experience.
YouTube music, Bluetooth and lock screen have appeared buggy very occasionally, generally ok.
Battery life has settled fine over first week. Gallery appears mediocre and camera Very good.
On the whole, I am very reluctantly thinking to return the phone but am feeling torn. I do need the stability and reliability from my phone in my age(mid 40's).
I was looking for people's experience with a move from iPhone and did find some posts, generally with really positive feedback with pixel.
I thought I will share mine, if this helps anyone. The move has been from iPhone 13 that I had bought few months after release to Pixel 7.
Also forgot to mention, the size is great but felt that I was pushing it though my jeans unlike iPhone 13 which was a tad bit smaller. Pics in Instagram and browsers appeared less HD.
I am sure there may be ongoing optimisation that can help some of the issues I have encountered.
Happy to answer any specific questions. My plan is to continue testing for few more days and then make the final decision, which seems likely to return the Pixel.
Thanks for reading it.
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2023.05.31 22:59 star-soup Attaching a cargo trailer to an NIU KQi2?
I just recently bought a
NIU KQi2 pro and am wondering if anyone who has one has tried attaching a cargo trailer to it. I saw some videos of people hooking up bike trailers to their scooters, but the KQi2 has plastic housing over the area where a trailer hitch would otherwise attach. Curious if anyone has a workaround!
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2023.05.31 22:50 MotorCow4419 First car
Just test drove a 2016 Buick Encore AWD with 78,000 miles and definitely liked it. I also drove a 2017 Ford Escape AWD with 60,000 milesearlier in the week and honestly I can't decide. Price isn't an issue as they are both affordable for me. What would be the best if the 2?
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2023.05.31 22:33 ballzdeepinbacon Totally overwhelmed with choice
We’re looking at buying a travel trailer. I’m just overwhelmed at all the choices and how nothing seems to fit perfectly. Help!
We’re towing with a ford ranger lariat with tow package. 7500lbs tow capote, 750lbs tongue weight. We’re hesitant to go over 4500lbs dry weight on a trailer.
Travellers are going to be:
2 adults (one tall and big) One child (tall as heck though) - some of the time 2 more adults(couple) - some of the time
Sometimes it’ll be all of us.
We want to be able to boondock for a few days at a time as well as enjoy a campground.
We’re primarily looking at new. But a good quality recent year model is possible.
We’re getting all confused with the marketing - azdel, stick and tin, aluminum etc.
Where should we consider? Help!
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2023.05.31 21:36 tabasco_devilman Brother Spicy Devil Hot And Ready Man
Sorry it took me so long to respond to your last missive. I love it when you speak to me sweetly like that, and you deserve some honey back in return.
I understand that you want to be there for me in some way in the long term but need time to focus on your own healing and growth. I understand sometimes being too close to me for too long triggers certain thoughts and behaviors that you need time to examine. I understand that to a degree you want to trust that I can be as consistent and thoughtful as you want to be with me, but that we struggle with trust. Why? Because we are both moody people with sharp tongues and complicated histories.
Words fly fast, and some things that are said in jest, can make another person spiral into the pits of hell. Yet we both sense the other is well intentioned. I just want to clarify, that I never say or do anything with the intent of sabotaging you. Sometimes I can be thoughtless, especially when I get stressed out or haven’t slept. Or if you say some shit that gets me going. YOU KNOW HOW YOU ARE. I lose myself if I don’t take time for myself. I feel like we are similar in a lot of ways even if we have differing beliefs. For the record I don’t care what you believe in, I care about how you treat me. If you’re respectful and kind we are good. You could be a Satanist, but if you’re a nice Satanist then I’m cool with you. You can be conservative, love guns, the dirtiest nastiest rap music, whatever, just talk nice to me.
For the most part you’ve changed a lot. I notice that when I upset you, instead of trying to get back at me right away you just leave me alone now. Thank you for choosing peace! I appreciate that so much about you. I am learning how to choose peace more often too as I take time to calm down and think about my goals more often. It’s a balance between being fluid and in the present, but also thinking about the future/long term. I want you to know that I have so much respect for you as a person. Even if we decide that we are too toxic to be in a relationship together, I would love to remain friends because I think you are somewhat of an inspiration, and a good example of what I always thought of how a real friend should behave.
I will use the Barbie movie (LOL) as an example for what I am trying to illustrate here. I was checking out the trailer for the movie out of curiosity, and I realized it was an interesting story. Barbie is living in her dream/perfect world with all her friends and one day she asks the question: Are we going to die? Her whole world changes. She’s given a matrix red pill blue pill choice to go visit the real world and see what its like. She’s banished from the perfect world where nothing bad ever happens. I see this as her shadow work/hero’s journey. As she’s driving out of town on her own, she realizes someone was in the car with her. It was Ken! He told her she wasn’t going alone. He left everything behind and followed her into the unknown to discover the horrors of life with her.
I realized you had done something similar for me as a friend, you tried to understand who I really am. You were curious enough to learn alongside me. You changed a lot. People who can undergo multiple transformations have depth. I know where that depth comes from, and I have an enormous respect for it. I’m sorry if you ever felt disrespected by me when I said something thoughtless, because I have nothing but respect for everything you are as an individual and all the things you overcome to be who you are, nor would I seek to change anything about you that you don’t wish to change yourself. I only want to understand and support you when I am able.
Thank you for all the different ways you went out of your way to put a smile on my face and show me that you understood and cared about me. They will never go unnoticed or unappreciated. I love watching your character development. Very exciting edge of my seat stuff.
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2023.05.31 20:30 HD-MOVIE-SOURCE Press Announce: East of Eden and Rio Bravo Arrive on 4K Ultra HD - July 18
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2023.05.31 19:50 san_anselm [WTS] LNW Spyderco Delica S30V Titanium Scale Mod w/ Ti Fob, Hitch & Timber Slip
Timestamp! Hi all,
Continuing to clear out my collection. Up for grabs today is a very nice
Spyderco Delica, modded by Lynch Northwest. This exact configuration has the S30V blade, stonewashed scales, and a stonewashed clip - all titanium and all made in the USA by LNW. Overall, the knife is in excellent condition, only carried 2-3 times and used on some light materials like tape. Factory edge, never disassembled (by me).
Blade slightly favors the clip side by a hair but does not touch or rub the scale. Some very slight and hard to see snail trails, but overall appears essentially new.
This setup includes the knife, a titanium stonewashed LNW lanyard fob (that has a screw-down cap to hide the lanyard knot), and a green Hitch & Timber slip that fits the knife perfectly. No box or paperwork or OG scales.
Asking $175 shipped, CONUS only - and no trade offers, please. Will ship via USPS Priority flat-rate, and it can be in the mail as early as tomorrow morning EST.
Any questions just holler - thanks!
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2023.05.31 19:48 ZippymcOswald Ron Stampler appreciation post. Possible [spoilers]
Hey there nerds and weirdos, here's my Beth May is a superhero, dungeons and daddies is the best, and hooooo boy did i realize i have a lot of baggage i need to deal with, appreciation post. Two weeks prior to thanksgiving 2022, an old high school friend of mine jumped into a rented ford MachE mustang, pointed it south and began the long trip to a cabin on Mount Hood, Oregon for a DnD weekend. We were both excited to continue our campaign we started earlier in the year. I’d get to reprise the roll of Snu Snu, half orc Barbarian, who is a dumb but smashy chap. I like my Dnd Characters to have a delusion, like the orc barbarian that was convinced he was a “blood wizard”, or the halfling rogue who was trying to convince everyone he was a brave warrior when in fact he was a coward. It’s fun playing flawed characters in Dnd, i think it sorta breaks the mold of playing heroes on an important quest. I like flawed characters in film, tv, literature, probably because I am a flawed character. Person. I’m a flawed person. I’m real, despite sometimes not wanting to be so some of the time. We started our journey in Seattle Washington, our GPS said it would be a four hour trip at two hundred and fifteen miles, the mache e was advertised to have a range of 110 miles…. I immediately realized I had made a critically failed my intelligence roll. 215 miles was greater than 110 miles. After two hours of bumper to bumper traffic, I needed to charge the car to get to our destination and despite my undeserved confidence, charging an electric car is more difficult and slower than I had expected. You have to find a fast charger, the right fast charger, and download the app associated with it, fill out a bunch of personal info, then start the charging process, which I remind you was referred to as “fast” but in fact takes over an hour. I’d fucked up. Our friends were already at the cabin we had rented, they had their character sheets in one hand, beers in the other and they were just waiting for us. I thought i’d already ruined the trip and we hadn’t made it out of the state. I asked my friend what he’d want to listen to while we sat and waited for the car to gain enough range to make it to our cabin on the edge of the forgotten realms. Ok, i didn’t say that, that was me trying to sound impressive and like i’m a good writer. You get it, or at least i hope you get it. My friend knew that i love podcasts, so he suggested we listen to a DND themed podcast to get in the mood, i asked which one, and he suggested Dungeons and Daddies. He said it was really funny, and he thought i’d like it. So, i found it in my podcatcher, went to season one episode one and started listening. We listened for the entire ride to the cabin, and then back again. I immediately loved the show. There’s something about podcasts, I'm not sure exactly what it is, but to me it feels like I really get to know the hosts/characters on the show. I think podcasts create a false sense of intimacy between the listener and the hosts. I think it’s because I mainly listen to podcasts alone and and it feels like the hosts/characters are talking to me. Or that I'm a fly on the wall of a really fun place, and I get to quietly observe these hilarious people. Is it because I listen in headphones or in my car? Maybe. Anyway, I know I get a false sense of intimacy, but sometimes I like to pretend it isn’t, or maybe I forget that it isn’t. I’m not sure, but these people don’t know me, and I don't know them, not really. So, after our weekend of DND, we drove back to Seattle, and by the time I was back at my house, I was ten episodes into Dungeons and Daddies. Over the last three weeks It had become my new audio obsession. I was hooked and I listened to it in the gym, on dog walks, while I cooked for my family, while I drove, every moment of silence I had was filled with the dads in the forgotten realm. I LOVE this show like I imagine many of you do because it’s funny, smart and dumb at the same time, it has great improvisation, an interesting story, fun characters who are out of place, and is honestly very touching and more emotionally impactful than I'd ever have imagined. As I got further down the season one rabbit hole, I began finding myself gravitating to Ron Stampler as my favorite daddy storyline. Beth’s performance is just fantastic, and even before episode 61,, where Ron has to give his dog away, Ron’s story and Beth’s performance was bringing me to tears.
I’m a dad, I have a son who is eight. In my life, there are only two Dads in my immediate family, see my wife’s father passed away when she was eight, there’s me and my dad. Well.. oh boy. My dad is kinda a nightmare. Not like Willy is a nightmare, my Dad is more like a crumpled and faded poster of a black and white monster movie, it’s sometimes more sad than scary. My dad was gone a lot when I was a kid. He was on business trips for pretty much eighty percent of my childhood. At one point he was American airlines third most flown person in the world, no joke. He’d fly to Germany on Monday, Japan on Wednesday, and then back to Oregon on friday. The good thing was we were able to fly back to my parents home country in the summer and at christmas, and the whole family usually flew for free because of his frequent flier miles. Those trips were GREAT times, I’d see my cool cousins, we’d eat awesome candy, visit castles, see the sleeping giants and all other manner of family fun. But, in normal life, I'd see him Friday night where he’d crash out, then when he woke up on Saturday he’d be grumpy, groggy and easy to anger. Those were the really good times I remember with my Dad when I was growing up, but I also remember him being angry, depressed, mean and sometimes he’d hurt me. I’m not saying that he hit me or my brother or mom on a regular occasion, that he was a drunk or anything, but there were times where he’d take things too far and I'd get hurt. For example, i must have been ten or eleven when my Dad, Brother and I went to a christian rock festival.We had to kill some time in the parking lot before the doors opened to rock n roll jesus. So my dad had the idea to teach us the spoons game. It’s like the game where you put your hands out palm up, and the other player places their hands on your hands palm down. You try to slap the other player’s hands while they try to evade your slaps. Got it? There’s gotta be a name for that game, slappies or something…
Well, for some reason we had some cutlery in the back of the car, maybe we had a picnic before the show, i don’t remember why, but we had shiny metal spoons for some reason. He taught us “the spoon game” by instructing me to make fists, and put them out in front of myself. He held spoons, one in each hand, and placed the bottom of the spoon on the top of my knuckles. My goal was to move my hands out of the way of the spoons as he tried to hit my knuckles with them. We played for what seemed like 15 minutes and he hit me every-time and with each successful hit he grew happier, and laughed harder. At first it stung, then it ached, then it was like this bubbling cauldron of pain and frustration was exploding inside me. When I could hardly hold my hands still because I was so angry, hurt and embarrassed, I burst into tears when my hands were red and beginning to bruise. I ran away from him, I just took off up the improvised road in the parking lot. He came after me, apologized to me and gave me a hug. We never played that game again. That’s just the kind of guy he was, and as I got older I realized some of the myriad of reasons he was that way. Firstly, he was an orphan, he and his brother were dropped off at an orphanage when he was three and his brother was five. I can only assume catholic orphanages in the 1950’s were not a great place to have some of your first memories. Although he’s never talked about it to me, I’m sure they’ve affected him. About a year later he and his brother were adopted by my grandparents, who in their 40’s decided to adopt two brothers aged four and six. I adored my grandparents, they were amazing people. They were blue-collar folks, my grandfather was a coal miner, with amazing stories and two sheds full of treasures which my grandmother called junk my brother and I got to paw through. Sure, he picked it up off the side of the road, but they were treasures, not junk in my or my brothers eyes. My grandfather walked from Wales to Scotland with his brother when he was nine years old to get work in the coal mines of Scotland. His sister, she was a boat captain and smuggler during the Spanish civil war who ran guns, food and medical supplies to the anti fascists. My Grandmother learned sign language so she could communicate and help THE deaf family in the village when the mother of that family fell gravely ill. But, it was the 1950’s and 1960’s so no matter how great their lives stories were, hitting kids was super normal, or at least that’s what my father and mother experienced. I’m sure he had a lot of trauma he never dealt with when he became a father in his late twenties. When we were kids, he was the sole breadwinner, his job was probably really taxing and took a lot out of him, he was away from his family a lot, and you know, traveling for work and living in hotels sucks. That’s not to excuse his behavior, I just try to, you know, put him in context of the stress he was under that I was too young to know about. It’s easier for me to believe that he’s not inherently bad, but shaped by his environment, it’s just easier for me that way. Judge away. It’s complicated. When I was twelve he lost his job, his brother committed suicide, and his funeral he found out he had 4 half sisters in Scotland who his brother had known about, and not told him about for almost a decade. It was a bad year with a silver lining. I watched him retreat into depression, longing, and joy of finding his new sisters. When i got out of college, he had his fourth back surgery. He had ruptured another disc in his lower back, and required another Discectomy . However, during the healing process he got an infection, one that raised his fever to a dangerous level that resulted in brain damage. From that point on, he wasn’t mean. He wasn’t cruel. He was confused, stubborn, repetitive, annoying and a shadow of his former intellectual self. So, I pity my father. Over this thanksgiving he decided to drive us back to my house from our extended families thanksgiving celebration. He drove into oncoming traffic because we had told him to take the next left, which he interpreted as take a left right now. No one was hurt. My son was in the car and was very scared.
And all I could think about was Ron Stampler. Listening to the end of season one gave me a lot of feelings. Listening to how Willy treated Ron wasn’t like my life with my father, not beat for beat, but a lot of the emotional beats seemed similar. Suddenly my father being absent for most of my early childhood was similar to the emotional abandonment Willy treated Ron. I saw how Willy was dismissive and cruel to Ron, and it brought back a bunch of memories I hadn’t contextualized. The spoons game for example, I had just blocked that off, not thought about it for decades, and when Willy was being so cruel to Ron, it just reminded me of that afternoon in a parking lot outside of a Jesus festival. So, my dad never made me give my dog away, but he did lose my dog once. Like, his story is that he took him to the groomer and the dog just bolted and we never saw Mocha again. Holy shit. I… I just remembered that. I want to break the cycle. I don’t want to pass on the bullshit my Dad did to me, I don’t want my the way I feel less than, incomplete, wrong and not god damn good enough onto my sweet boy. He doesn’t deserve any of that, I mean no kid does, but I’m NOT going to do that to him. I struggle with being a father a lot. I’m always second guessing myself, always worried that i’ll slip into a casual cruelty that will forever leave deep emotional scars in my sweet son the way my dad did to me. My son is an emotional kid, like I was. My son has the biggest heart you’ll ever see in a child his age. He loves everyone he meets, treats them as dear friends, and is always the first to lend a hand, a shoulder to cry on, a hug, or the shirt off his back. For christ's sake, this halloween he gave a bunch of his candy to his friends brother on the night of halloween. The younger brother was too tired to do the second round of trick or treating, it was past his bedtime. We were having a little party for halloween because we go crazy for halloween. Decorations, lights, family costume themes, full sized cady bars for trick or treaters, the whole nine yards. My son’s friends parents were attending the party, So I took my son and his friend on 2nd round of trick or treating. It was awesome, we were the last group of trick or treaters to be seen and our neighborhood was just dumping candy into the kids bags. DUMPING. When we got home, with our heavy haul the brother was upset that he didn’t go back out and get candy, so my kid just gave him all he wanted. If you’re not a parent of a young kid, let me be clear- candy is the hard drugs of childhood. Kids can be junkies for that sweet sweet candy.
That’s the kind of selfless eight year old I have, just handing over his own kiddy crack to someone he cares about without a second thought. Just today I realized he put a board game on his list to Santa, because it’s my wife’s favorite board game. He wants HER to have it, so he’s asking the all mighty and powerful Santa to bring something for him, so he can make his mom happy. What a kid. Listening to the Dungeons and Daddies made me think a lot about my dad, my baggage, what Dad I wanted to be. I have committed myself to not passing on generational trauma to my sweet, sweet boy. Listening to Beth May craft such a beautiful arch for Ron opened up a pandora's box of emotion including hope, anger, sadness and love. Ron was able to take the first steps of breaking the cycle of abuse that Willy passed on to him, and I’m ready to do the same. I hope to be as smart, brave, insightful and cool as Ron frickin’ Stampler. Thank you Daddies, thank you Anthony, Thank you Beth. I did not expect that this horny and violent podcast would be so therapeutic and eye opening to me.
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2023.05.31 19:38 imrebirth Elantra N Towing Options?
Hey guys, was just wondering if any of you have came across and accessories/add ons for towing capability? I am really interested in buying a jetski but want to make sure i can transport if first. I have looked online but i havent seen anything related to the EN so far. I have water access and a dock less than a 1/4 mile from my house so it wouldn’t be transported very far at all. Has anyone come across any options for a tow hitch or have any ideas on how to transport a jetski a short distance without a trailer?
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2023.05.31 19:34 Street-Topic3 [TOMT][2010s] Small toy that wouldn't fall off edge of surface
From 2012-2016, I had a hex-bug sized toy that would not fall of the edge of a table or surface. I believe it was a wind-up mechanism, I definitely know it did not have batteries. I just found it so unique that it was able to sense the edge of the table and not fall off. I think it came in a pack of three.
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2023.05.31 19:19 greenhearted73 Tow hitch installation rec
I just bought a teardrop trailer and need a hitch installed on my car. Who do you recommend?
Thanks!
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